So since I decided to live with my Father, my bond with my Mother is pretty much gone. We used to be so close but now I fear nothing will ever be the same. No matter how much I reassure her, she keeps going on about how she's a horrible mother and that I abandoned her for money. I try to tell her I love her and everything as I always did but I fear she thinks I'm being insincere no matter what I do. Anything I can do to...uh for a lack of better words reinstate that bond? Though my mom has done some mean things I love her to bit and don't want things to change.
Bonding isn't something that can be remedied quickly unfortunately I really think you just need to keep sticking by her, keep reassuring her that everything is okay and hey, even just say mom you have done some things, I've done some things too but just make her understand you're forgiving and forgetting and want to be close with her again. Don't stop trying. It'll be a long process but you just need to keep going ;-;
I have no idea. The bond between my parents and I isn't great, but I'd just recommend keeping good communication with her. She probably just feels a bit betrayed by the change of choice, not that your choice was a bad thing, just people sometimes don't see the bigger picture.
Have you tried to organise spending more time with her? If you find some common ground, go out for a meal, see a movie and so on, you might find that your relationship will begin to gradually get better. It's probably best not to overuse the whole "I love you" line, or it might start to lose its meaning. Have you also tried to sit down with her and discuss everything? This is all pretty basic stuff, but maybe you haven't tried it?
I think you have to think why is she saying this - is it the bond or that little bit of emotional blackmail - your not there to deal with your mother's whatever insecurities - emotional needs. Say what you have to say - be nice but be real.
I really think you just need to keep sticking by her, keep reassuring her that everything is okay and hey, even just say mom you have done some things, I've done some things too but just make her understand you're forgiving and forgetting and want to be close with her again. Don't stop trying. It'll be a long process but you just need to keep going ;-;
