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I drop DS off at the gym. Half an hour later, phone rings. It is DS14. Requesting I come BACK to the gym and sign in a 13 yo whose parents dropped the 13yo off and didn't sign the child in. :faint:

Ummmmm.....no. ALMOST cool enough....considered it for a moment....no.

DS was angry that I couldn't just come and say I was the child's parent and sign the form saying the child could participate and that I didn't hold the gym liable for injury and sign the child's mom's name.

:faint: :faint:

My argument that I would be committing fraud that I think is potentially I could (though not likely) be arrested for ON CAMERA....didn't sway DS. He hung up on me.

OK....so, I talk with a friend that says kids are dropped at the YMCA BY THEIR PARENTS all the time and they need the same thing (parent signature) to be left there alone..so, they stand and argue and yell at YMCA staff because they HAD permission...the parent just didn't haul their lazy backside in to make sure their child is all good before they speed off.

Would you have considered it? done it? why? whynot?

Do you go in and make sure the child is ok, the activity is going on etc..before you drive off? If the kid is 12? 14? 16?

I don't usually go in....I wait 10 minutes in the parking lot and call their phone and make sure they are IN the activity before I leave. And yes, I had to go in once before he was 14 to sign him in. Good thing I waited the 10 minutes in the lot and didn't drop him and drive off!!!

What do you do? What have you seen others do? Would you sign in your child's friend? if you knew the parent? (I didn't...never saw this person before EVER)

What would you think if you dropped off your child and found out later that you didn't sign them in so another parent you don't know did. Would you be mad or thankful they "covered for you"?
 
First off no.

When I drop DS13 off at the Y to go swimming, I wait until I see him get passed the desk which means all is good. When I drop him off at various schools for b-ball practice during the week, he has to go in and make sure his coach is there and the come back to the door and give me a thumbs up then I drive off. Last year I always went in with him to make sure but this is working fine so far. He doesn't have a phone so I need the actual thumbs up lol.
 
I would never sign a child in. People are too sue happy and if the child got hurt or worse, the second thing they think of is $$$. I don't want to be the dork parent but there are things I just won't do. As far as dropping them off, sometimes I wait and sometimes I just go. Depends on the activity and who is running it. It is a good idea to have the kid call if coach or responsible adult isn't there. And I have always impressed upon my kids that if they screw up by lying to me, all trust is gone.
 
Was a TRUE "WTH?!?!" moment for me that DS thought I MIGHT....
 
I would not sign the child in BUT DS best friends mom and I have an agreement that we can sign in each others kids if needed. They often go places that need permission from parent (trampoline, rockclimbing) and I will sign in her child as my own. We;ve had this agreement for years. Kids are 17 years old now.

Part of parenting is knowing your kid is where they belong...get off your phone or butt and do your job :pms:
 
Yeah if it was my friend I would defininately sign the kid in and probably call her and tell her. But look at it this way. Adil thought you would have no problem signing in said friend. Translated this means 'hey you're a cool mom and I thought you'd have no problem with this." That's what I would think.
 
Lotsacoups said:
Yeah if it was my friend I would defininately sign the kid in and probably call her and tell her. But look at it this way. Adil thought you would have no problem signing in said friend. Translated this means 'hey you're a cool mom and I thought you'd have no problem with this." That's what I would think.
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Thanks. I DID take the compliment. But, had to disappoint him this time.

Cool....not brain dead.:lol::lol:
 
My DD14's team's parents all have an agreement that we can sign for each other. We're not ALWAYS there, there are Friday games & parents work, and sometimes the parents have to sign a new roster verifying that their kid is their kid, that age, etc. It's not for liability purposes, though. I'd say it would be case by case. I'd probably do it, IF I knew the parents well & I'd call them first just to say, "Hey, your DD can't play unless you sign her in...want me to do it?" I'm thinking of DD's BFF...I'd have no issue signing for her & her parents wouldn't mind OR sue me.

I'd be more pissed that your DS hung up on you. :lol:
 
I have 2 girls....and 1 boy.

Would it make any difference if you read this and realized it is 13 yo GIRL meeting 4 14 yo boys at the gym?

My worry is that her parents didn't know she was meeting 4 guys there. And I SURE wasn't going to be the one "sneaking" her in....

They wouldn't tell me WHY she couldn't call her own parent to sign her in.

IF my daughter lied about where she was (I DON'T know this was the case) and met up with 4 guys somewhere and then one of the boys parents signed her in behind my back. WE would have been on the news if I found out!!!
 
I never met her or her parents before. EVER.

She is apparently the gf of one of the boys.
 
dragonfly said:
My DD14's team's parents all have an agreement that we can sign for each other. We're not ALWAYS there, there are Friday games & parents work, and sometimes the parents have to sign a new roster verifying that their kid is their kid, that age, etc. It's not for liability purposes, though. I'd say it would be case by case. I'd probably do it, IF I knew the parents well & I'd call them first just to say, "Hey, your DD can't play unless you sign her in...want me to do it?" I'm thinking of DD's BFF...I'd have no issue signing for her & her parents wouldn't mind OR sue me.

I'd be more pissed that your DS hung up on you.
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When I dropped him off, he wanted to stay later. When he called me, I was going to tell him I was calling his dad to let him know he was going to stay an extra 45 minutes. When he hung up on me (before I got to tell him that).....he came home the regular time. I called his bff's phone and said "let Adil know he WILL be picked up at 4:15 as agreed"

AND I made sure when I picked him up to let him know I was going to let him stay the extra 45 minutes...but since he hung up on me, I had no way to let him know (ooooops):hah::laugh:
 
AND....may I take a moment here and THANK GOD my girls are now in their 20s.

Thank you...thank you VERYmuch!!
 
ok, i am sitting here wondering why he called you as opposed to the kid calling their parents??? they are the ones who dropped off w/o signing.
 
My GUESS is that she didn't want parent coming in and seeing her there with 4 guys?

I will never know (I asked).

I figure she was supposed to meet some girls from school...and went in quick "Bye! See you later!" and didn't want a parent in to sign???

But that is my deduction, not something that was said to me.

Otherwise, I can't reason that one either.
 
Obviously purely hypothetical;

If I were standing right there (or even just walking out), maybe. I would still be a case by case basis.

After I already left? Not a chance. If you want me to come back right now, I'm not coming in, you're just getting in the car and we're leaving.
 
Barb09 said:
I have 2 girls....and 1 boy.

Would it make any difference if you read this and realized it is 13 yo GIRL meeting 4 14 yo boys at the gym?

My worry is that her parents didn't know she was meeting 4 guys there. And I SURE wasn't going to be the one "sneaking" her in....

They wouldn't tell me WHY she couldn't call her own parent to sign her in.

IF my daughter lied about where she was (I DON'T know this was the case) and met up with 4 guys somewhere and then one of the boys parents signed her in behind my back. WE would have been on the news if I found out!!!
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THAT would make a BIG difference. I would not (and do not) allow my DD's to be "out numbered." I don't care who the boys are, or how well I know them or their parents. I would not want my daughters hanging out with a group of boys alone. I know they can all be friends and at that age I'm sure they are just friends, or bf/gf in the way 13yo's are, but it sets a precedent for the next few years & once they hit 16-17, I don't want my daughter surrounded by boys. One dumb boy getting one dumb idea can be life altering.
 
I would not sign her in. You did the right thing. What if she got hurt? THe parent can say they didn't sign the waiver--and who is responsible--when they find out that you signed the sheet?
If I knew the parent, I would have called and said--did you know you have to sign a waiver? My child thought I could do it for you, since I was there (not sure I would mention they called me to sign and you were home) and that you might want to go back and sign they can be there

I think you did the right thing, besides you also showed ds that someone else can not sign if you are not there--and reasons why.
Of course he was upset, that is normal, they all think they can talk us into doing things and he really wanted it--probably told the person, my Mom is easy going and will do it for you---and was upset to have mud on his face when you said NO--

I have seen it all the time where people drop off kids and expect to be able to partiicipate--once we were at Extreme Trampoline , and someone did not have their waiver--my child thought I would sign it--since the parent had dropped them off--but NO WAY--if they got hurt--the parent could say I didn't sign it--and we would be liable--NOT WORTH IT in my opinion!!
 
As a grown up I had to sign a liability thing for myself for snow tubing- making sure I was responsible for my own injuries, stupidity, etc. Gosh, I wouldn't sign that for somebody else's kid.
 
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