Making new friends.

[LokiLaufeyson]

I need some advice on making friends.

You see, I just moved to a new state, recently, and it's one where a good 85% of people arw against what and who I am. I am a gay, trans, Atheist, Pagan, furry, non-political party seventeen year old who lives in Texas.

One of my friends is probably going to move out here with me but, I need others.

Advice?

 

[Riven]

if you are pagan, you can't be an atheist

 

[jamick]

I guess you have to decide maybes how open yo are with people regarding your beliefs and life style choices etc.

Do you have to share everything - with everyone - nothing wrong with that but as you realise the reality of the situation maybe you have to make some choices.

Also at 17 many of your potential freinds will stuff have parental input into who they are seeing - inviting home etc -

I dont have any better answer than that but Im only 13 and well know how some kids just have to run with parents rules etc.

 

[LokiLaufeyson]

Yes.......you can be Atheist and Pagan at the same time. I don't believe in gods/goddesses and support scientific advances but, I am in tune with nature, giving respect to all things, and many other Pagan ideals.

Well, I am eighteen in less than two months, and would rather befriend adults.

Yeah, I mean, I do have issues with people if they are going to **** me to hell. xP. That doesn't mean I'm not open to befriending people with different opinions or views, as long as they're not violent or destructive with them. If they think all **** and Atheists should die, why befriend them?

Well, I am eighteen in less t

 

[lauren]

I'm very bad at making friends and I'll be honest I don't really have very good advice for you but I just wanted to let you know that I'm always here and many others are to talk to and that I hope you find yourself some really good friends I admire the fact you've stayed you despite others being against what you are

 

[Riven]

Yes.......you can be Atheist and Pagan at the same time. I don't believe in gods/goddesses and support scientific advances but, I am in tune with nature, giving respect to all things, and many other Pagan ideals.

Yeah but being a pagan means you believe in Mother Earth and she is a godess.. Look for the meaning of it here.. In paganism , you have the GOd and the Godess to worship so you cannot be an atheist by definition

 

[jamick]

Well, I am eighteen in less than two months, and would rather befriend adults.

That doesn't mean I'm not open to befriending people with different opinions or views,

Well, I am eighteen in less t

I understand what you are saying - but ARE others as open as you towards duffering opinions and life styles etc. Sad thing they are not.

 

[Night]

Yes.......you can be Atheist and Pagan at the same time. I don't believe in gods/goddesses and support scientific advances but, I am in tune with nature, giving respect to all things, and many other Pagan ideals.

Look into pantheism. It's got those naturey vibes without really requiring belief in a concrete deity. I call myself an atheist, but I suppose I'm in-line with a lot of pantheistic beliefs, haha.

I'm a transguy living in an area that isn't very LGBT friendly myself, so I can say this much: if you wanna make friends fast, don't flaunt the "weird" stuff. I'm not telling you to suppress who you are- I know that doing so hurts a lot. But parading that you're a gay atheist like it's a big sign around your neck won't make friends fast down there.

Meet some people, talk to them, get to know them. If they seem like the open-minded sort, open up to them a bit. The ones who accept you for who you are, are the ones worth keeping. The ones who "**** you to hell"- they're not worth the trouble.

 

[Gannet]

I can't give advice on religion as I've no interest in it, but how about you join an outdoor club? Go hiking, or perhaps visit an archery club and see about taking it up as a new sport/hobby. I've been into archery since around 12 when I started the longbow.

Those two suggestions should help towards your meeting new people, though I'd advise you to keep your sexual orientation secret for a while. Some people can be a bit over-sensitive. Make friends first, get their confidence, enjoy yourself with a new experience in outdoors or whatever, and go from there.

~Rachel

 

[Kirk]

Assuming you're still going to school, just keep those personal details to yourself and let people make judgments on you based their experiences with you, not what they know of you.

Unfortunately I'm no good with making friends in real life; pretty much all my friends are on the internet. The best advice I can give you is, if you want true friends, just be yourself and do what you enjoy your life. If you're happy, people will see you are happy and may even want to become friends with you.

 

[James]

atheism = absence of religion, not gods; paganism is a religion despite its connotation, atheism doesn't mean against christianity and all its branches.

as for making friends, pick up some hobbies! maybe check around facebook to see if there are any furry communities near you. texas is a pretty large, and actually really liberal state, especially around houston. maybe also look for any LGBT*Q groups that could be near by, or any covens/circles.

making friends means doing a LOT of reaching out. don't expect people you hung out with once to constantly go out of their way and invite you places- you're probably going to be asking them to do things with you a lot more often than you'd expect. don't let that get you down, though- it'll be worth it.
just take some breaths and chill out, see how the people around you work and see how you'll fit in. don't go into it expecting to be rejected- yeah, you might be rejected, but that's fine! rejection is a part of life, and quite frankly, isn't as bad as you make it out to be. just relax and get comfortable. learn some things about yourself and the world around you, stay calm and have fun!! nwn*

i'm **** as **** can get and i've bounced around quite a bit. put this with social anxiety and i always had a tough time making friends, but i eventually was able to get over that and have tons of friends i can talk to about anything at any time. trust me when i say you'll be accepted much more than you'll be rejected in terms of who you are. currently i live in a very conservative town- hell i even went to catholic school. i've never had '****' burned into my yard or really ever been bullied. it's all about confidence. and of course, knowing who to associate with and how to pick your fights :b

 

[Ringo]

Bump.. I also need help on this. Any more advice?