I think the Bestlife Buttery Spread will be OK - will go on the hunt for some. Can't check the Fleishman's light online - they say check the packaging for ingredients.
I asked at Whole Foods today about the cheese and they gave the same answer as you. Need to know exactly what he is allergic to.
Thanks for the Van's suggestion. The few I checked are sweetened with pineapple juice so that would be a no go. I'll email the company to see if any of their products will work for us.
(Now it is my turn to be responding backwards).
I'll have to contact Delight Soy as well. Products look interesting, but I couldn't find exact ingredients.
For the homemade mac 'n cheese Barb suggested - I know what all the ingredients are, except "
nutritional yeast". From reading it looks like this is just used as a cheese substitute. Seems like it should be an interesting thing to try out.
This site has a recipe for almond "Parmesan" and some other dishes that look like they'd fit Lex's needs (and palate) nicely.
I did print out some West Soy, so I'll be hoping to find some of those too.
So that's where I'm at for tasks completed and planning thus far.
Thanks again everyone for your help. This weekend was very stressful, but the suggestions made the trip to Whole Foods relatively simple and the plan for the week came together smoothly.