Sharon said:In my relationship before this one I did not handle it very well. I had given him the impression that I forgave him by telling him so but I never really truly did and was constantly paranoid about it and found myself checking his computer and phone a lot. *sighs* Sad thing is, because I had a reason to - he always kept trying to hide his correspondence with other girls. No matter how much I "forgave him" and still stayed with him in the end he left me. Which I am now grateful for though because I am happily married to my husband.
Mayu said:Sharon said:In my relationship before this one I did not handle it very well. I had given him the impression that I forgave him by telling him so but I never really truly did and was constantly paranoid about it and found myself checking his computer and phone a lot. *sighs* Sad thing is, because I had a reason to - he always kept trying to hide his correspondence with other girls. No matter how much I "forgave him" and still stayed with him in the end he left me. Which I am now grateful for though because I am happily married to my husband.
Sharon, that's really sad but it is a good lesson, isn't it? So often in my life that I say "I'm okay" or "I forgive you" but when I can get depressed or mad over not-so-big things, it shows how I actually have not forgiven anything. Even less to forget about it. In a sense I'm glad it was him who walked away from you, so you could stop suffering.
Mayu said:Do you have any tips on detecting if someone cheats on you? Well, not like I suspect my bf cheating on me, but I guess it never hurts to be prepared in advanced.
Zimm said:Cheating is--and always will be--a deal breaker for me. It use to bother me but I'd just let it happen and go crawling back. That's what young, dumb, and in love will do to you. Finally, after almost six years, I had enough and left the man that cheated on me numerous times. Now, I'm married to someone who treats me with respect and dignity. He's never done anything to indicate he'd do something like that.
Hugop said:Mayu said:Do you have any tips on detecting if someone cheats on you? Well, not like I suspect my bf cheating on me, but I guess it never hurts to be prepared in advanced.
Ugh, I have good tips. Don't steal his phone, asking if you can check his Facebook messages or keep hearing his calls. Don't do this to much like my girlfriend and dont keep asking things like "Who is she?". Trusting is the best you can do.
My girlfriend ignored me for 10minutes, showed me my phone(I sent a message with a <3 ) and she asked me "Who is she?". My answer: my mom.
Lohengrin said:I've been cheated on. It really sucks.
If someone is already a known cheater I don't why would anyone take the risk lightly and get into a serious relationship with them.Seraph said:Cheaters deserve to be throat punched. Once a cheater always a cheater. I wouldn't ever date one. Chances are she'll cheat on you too.
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