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Do you like romance? What's your personal version of it?

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You should all know that I am a hopeless soppy romantic and I love turning my boyfriend into a big sweetheart. (Not that he wasn't already one :P)
So are you guys in favour of lovey-dovey romantic ventures or does it make you feel sick? :P

Also, what's your personal idea of a romantic date or night together? Does it have to be candles and red roses or much more extravagant or maybe even much more simple?


My personal idea of a really romantic day together would be dressing up for a nice meal out together, chatting and really getting into conversation. I love having deep and meaningful conversations, even if it isn't really about our relationship, and then once we're home..literally..I'm a scented-candles-with-sprinkled-rose-petals-all-over-the-bed kind of girl. And cuddles.

What do you guys see as romantic? and more importantly, do you like romance at all or do you think it's not very realistic?
 
I'm into romance, not that I'll often admit it :p
Just anything sweet and thoughtful I find romantic. If he's really put thought into it then I'm usually won over.
I like getting dolled up and candles and rose petals, but I equally like take-away, movies and cuddles on the sofa. I like intimacy and being lovey, I find that romantic :3
 
I like romance but not too many of it.
pretty much what [MENTION=32]Vampenstine[/MENTION] said
 
My idea of romance is cuddling up together, talking, or not talking, doing nothing together, watching Doctor Who all day everyday, mutual massages, things like that.

Basically just spending time together. Not enough to be smothering, not necessarily everyday even. Just being able to spend time together in comfortable silence without feeling awkward about how quiet it is.

But what the hell do I know, I've never been in a relationship, let alone ever been romanced. The closest thing I got to romance was when this guy I used to work with sarcastically proposed to me every time we worked together (we worked during nights mostly) and declared that I was his girlfriend / wife / fiancee each time a customer came in when it wasn't that busy. The other guy who worked with us, who was actually a friend of this guy, nearly died laughing every time - and made it worse by telling customers that everything the first guy said was true.
Please keep in mind I was 18 when this happened and they were around 30.
But, yeah, that was the closest I've ever gotten to it. And that was all sarcastic. Although maybe I should be flattered considering he flirted seriously with every other girl we worked with, even though many of them were around my age and he claimed I was "too young" for him so he never seriously flirted with me... uh-huh. Well anyway, that was that.

Never experienced real romance though. I think I'd like it, but I don't like the candle-lit dinner stuff, or roses, or anything extravagant. I tend to like more simple and more relaxed things. Not casual really, just relaxed.
 
Romance and emotional intimacy are great. I don't need anything fancy, though; just spending time together is great in my eyes, curling up and acting all affectionate and talking. I really like going hiking with my girlfriend too; lets us be alone in a secluded place and have a ton of fun.
 
A nice meal out one evening; a candlelit dinner for two somewhere bijou; a walk along Brighton prom afterwards. Good conversation, comfortable feelings; being made to feel special. A peck on the cheek later leading to a more serious kiss. And if the romance grows and one's feelings soar, then a night of loving spent together is bliss; waking up to watch one's lover asleep is such a beautiful thing. I'm just a simple girl, nothing complicated.
 
i don't really like over-the-top romance, like it just makes me feel really embarrassed and anxious and doesn't make me like anyone LMAO
TBH i pretty much only like romance if i'm the one romancing. i'm pretty terrible about thinking if anyone else romances they're doing it 'wrong' and it just goes downhill from there
like i'm pretty big on writing little poems or drawing little pictures or just leaving little things for my SO and having them smile and stuff
i'll cook their favourite food even if i hate it and idk just little things really
i've never been big on like elaborate romance, it just irritates me haha
i like the little things
 
This thread is just a hint from Lauren as to what I should be doing. :p


I like cuddles, watching a movie together by the fire, candlelit dinners etc. :)
 
^ Hey! I'm genuinely interested ;)
 
This is such a sweeeeet thread. :D

I have "someone"; someone to watch over me, a guy called Mark. He's older than me and in his work with us, very professional, but that doesn't mean I can't secretly crush, I thought. Mark has worked for us for years. He's so many things. Like a dad that I never knew. Like a boyfriend who is always - always there for me whatever **** state I get into, whatever trouble I get into - he will always get me out of it - and without remonstrating. Mark's a teacher of many great outdoorsy things. He's training me up to be extra fit, puts me through obstacles I had never even flipping dreamed I was ever capable of doing! He says that potentially I have great leadership qualities, and he's going to bring them out. Well, he's already been doing that for months and months now, and I'm so grateful for having such an amazing companion.

Late last night the electricity went futt and I was plunged in darkness. Nobody here would know what being in darkness does to me, so I speed dialled Mark. He came within minutes, bringing a flashlight. He took me into his arms, let me cry myself out. There were lots of tears, and thats when I let it all out of what had been done to me at boarding school, and what mum did at those weekends with the boys to tease and hurt me. Mark stroked my head and held me to himself, and then he told me of what happened to his wife and child, and I knew then that it must have taken huge courage to share what he did because of the tears, big tears in his eyes.

In some men, crying is something they just don't do. Not the tough ones. Not the 'early retired from military types' ones. But it takes Big Character to cry, and in front of a girl who never knew it possible to see such humanity in man like Mark. I slept in his arms last night. Nothing more than him holding me, his gentle but strong presence chasing the screaming nightmares away, for he went into my dreams like a knight and as dawn came up to greet us in its pale golden softness, thats when I kissed and poured out my love over him. And afterwards, mussing my hair through his fingers, he whispered he was going to take care of me in future, that everything was going to be alright. That he'll see me get strong and more confident again, and like a phoenix rise from the ashes of the life that had broken me in two. I can't say much more, but i think you the reader will know by now that I will never be alone again, never be such a broken young woman. And that I am loved and watched over, and have a great man who is never going to leave me bereft or lonely ever again.
 
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Alan D said:
So I wrote a 1200 word rant on romance that I sort of half had this thread in mind for before it degenerated into me just ripping on cynicism and people who don't take chances with romance and relationships.

http://somewhatvicarious.tumblr.com/post/52588652641/raving-like-a-deranged-lunatic-about-romance

I love the **** out of romance and I think that much like love itself it can be small or grand in scale. And shape. And speed!
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This is a wonderful post and I love your view on romance. I'm a hopeless romantic and wish I could implement it into every day life with my Kirk ^_^
 
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