I thought I was done asking for advice on forums... guess not.

[Potato]

So yeah, I kind of, sort of like this girl, but when I like someone it's only because of: "Oh look, she has a pretty face, looks healthy, really nice eyes, long hair."

So I'm kind of still like a 12 year old girl when it comes to attraction.

Getting to know them simply doesn't make a difference if I'm physically attracted to someone then I don't really care if they're a total ****, but if I'm not physically attracted to them then nothing will make me.

Am I just shallow? I like to think I'm not, I never have or plan to lead anyone on, I'm pretty straightforward.

I really do want to feel a deeper connection, I don't know if I just never met anyone that actually suits me.

 

[Ringo]

how old are you?

 

[Riven]

I used to be just like you.... But then, with age, deeper feelings came with it... You can be 20 and still have shallow thoughts...

What i mean is, when you agr from the inside.. ****, i know 40 years old women that are still shallow... they go to uni and they drink themselves to "die" and , if they get lucky, wake up next to some other now-hangover guy.

and hey, it's not worth to be anxious about getting deeper feelings... deeper feeling are 80% trouble , if it's not matched... And i think you're not a masoquist.. And it hurts.. bad.. You grow up from it but it will be painful.

So, bottom line is... No stress!

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how old are you?

and the age is written under the avatar.

 

[lauren]

Attraction is important and often the first important thing that people notice. Then you can search for that deeper connection.
Okay I'd be worried if you dated someone you thought was a total **** just because they're attractive because clearly that's not going to be your future wife if they're a **** to you.
I think once you've found that attraction you need to look further in that persons personality.

 

[Alan D]

There is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone based purely on physical attributes.

 

[Potato]

That's the thing, I don't know how to go any further, well I kind of have some clues, I just never bothered because I end up finding little things that bother me more than they should and use them as excuses to not go any further.

 

[lauren]

There will be things you don't like about your partner but you just need to decide if the pros outweigh the cons. If they don't then there's no point in try with that person.

 

[Alan D]

That's the thing, I don't know how to go any further, well I kind of have some clues, I just never bothered because I end up finding little things that bother me more than they should and use them as excuses to not go any further.

My response in another topic could apply to this. You're already aware that you were finding excuses not to go any further, so you've basically won half the battle there. Just gotta take the extra push to ask her out.

 

[Potato]

I don't know where to ask her out to.

We played pool the other day for a good two hours, it was her first time, she seemed to have enjoyed herself, maybe I could do the same again, not too sure.

She also offered to model to help me get started with portrait photography(I mainly do sports and macro) so I should arrange something.