part of me is like well hes sober, why not? then the other part of me thinks its wrong to let your kid see you drunk.....
is it wrong to let your 18 year old be your designated driver?
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i think it is not illegal. wouldn't this be showing the des driver that you are serious about not drinking and driving. and i really do not think most people get blitzed out of their gourd on new years, do they? if so you are not gonna show him/her something the already do not know or have seen. otherwise it would be hypocritical in my opinion.
If they are 16 the problem comes in that they are restricted to driving only up to curfew. I do not forsee your night ending before 11 on a weekend but if it did you could have your 16 or 17 year old drive you. As for the 18 year old. well If you have no other choice then yes i think it is ok. also would this be the first time they ever saw you drink or in an inebriated state?
I have had my 2 sons be designated drivers for me and my DH and for our friends on occasion. I kinda felt guilty at first but now they ask me to be thier designated driver when they go to parties or the bars. They never drive when they drink or get into a car with someone who has been drinking. I quess I taught them a valuable lesson without really knowing it.
that was the way i was thinking too. i mean it seems hypocritical to hide ones actions from loved ones. where is the trust and what is the relationship based on then? a persona?
Hmm...I started off thinking 'no way!' but then as I read other's opinions, now I'm thinking it's the right thing to do. I think it does teach them a lesson, and open the door to them asking you to be their dd in return some day.
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If that parent is impaired, then the underage driver is not actually being supervised by a competent adult, right?
I am floored by this question. It's a special kind of person that a) can't just stay home and get their drink on or b) just can't stop drinking early enough to sober up and drive home themselves or c) has NOBODY IN THE WORLD to choose from as a DD except their kid?
We are supposed to teach kids how to behave responsibly. I for one don't approve of the whole drunk/bar thing, nor would I intentionally expose my kids to it, and me obviously drunk, especially by putting them in a "clean up my mess" role.
****ing outrageous.
I'm thinking more along the lines of being at a family/friend holiday party...you drink a little (I don't think anyone is getting ****faced at parties WITH their kids?) and it's probably better to have your kid drive home for 2 reasons: 1) no risk of dui at all & 2) you're showing them that even though you only had a few drinks & even thought you probably could drive, you're not going to & instead you're choosing someone (them) who hasn't had anything to drink at all, which is what they should do, regardless of how much or how little they drank.
This is a non-issue for us, as we rarely go out & if we did, wouldn't bring the kids anyway. :lol:
I think it teaches them to be a good drinker meaning have a DD in place before you even drink. And like someone else said it may lead them to having you be the DD for them someday.
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The DD thing made me :lol:
I was thinking if you have too much you might end up with another DD:lol:
the curfew thing is not about the fact that they are out past curfew it would more be the fact that they are on a restricted license that does not gran them privileges to drive past curfew
Hey I would vote to have the kids drive over the person with any amount of alcohol in their system. I just wanted to point out if pulled over there is a possibility of trouble with driving past curfew. I would hope a cop would be sympathetic to the fact it was for a good reason. However some cops can be assholes
That's what I was thinking. :9:
