Here's some advice based on my own personal knowledge on what a good relationship should consist off, so you can see if your relationship is worth keeping or just appreciate how well your partner treats you!
1. Care - Obviously they should care for you the same way you do. If you feel that you do a lot for them but don't get much in return or they don't really say much to you after you've done something nice for them, then that can be a huge sign that they don't really care or they're distracted by something else.
2. Listen - Communication is very important in a relationship but its not all about talking, it's about listening too! However, if you listen to your partner the majority of the time and you can't get a word in, or when you do speak, they don't seem interested at all or talk over you, then they're not only being rude, but they're obviously not caring about what you have to say. They should listen to you just as much as you listen to them so you feel like you're being heard. It's all about giving and taking fairly.
3. Jealousy - You may think a bit of jealousy is a good thing, it may even make you feel more precious to that person. We all like to feel loved and wanted, right? I guess a little bit is okay but too much of it can seriously ruin a relationship. If your partner stops you from speaking to anyone, even if its a person you don't particularly like, that's still a bad sign. By doing this, they're taking away your freedom of doing what you want. They're doing this to make it less likely that you'll run off with someone else. If they say you're looking at another person in a flirtatious manner, all the time, that's also a bad sign. It shows they don't trust you and are insecure themselves. These kind of people get very possessive and you're not an object to be possessed, so don't let them and get out of the relationship!
4. Embarrassed - If you go out with your partner and you run into their friends and they act like you're not there, don't introduce you or even ignore you when you talk, can be a sign that they're embarrassed to be with you. This is wrong. If they truly loved you, they'd want the whole world to know, so a couple friends knowing wouldn't hurt and they'd happily put up with a bit of teasing.
5. Friends - I cant emphasise enough how important it is to keep your friends close because not every relationship lasts forever and to have supportive friends would help you move on. If you push your friends away (or your partner forces you due to possessiveness), then you're ultimately pushing away your life, because your friends are your life. Without them, you'd feel lonely and you definitely feel lonely after a break up!
6. Sex - If you feel that all they want is sex, then that's all they want, not you! Sorry but it is true in most cases! You're just the object that gives them that pleasure. If every single time you see them, they want sex, even if you don't, then you can tell they're real intentions and you should leave them. Also if they ignore you when you tell them you don't want to have sex, then that's another example of them not caring for your feelings.
(Remember to always use contraception if you do have sex! Don't ever think 'I won't get pregnant this one time'... theres a huge chance of getting pregnant or getting an STI. Try following the rule, 'No contraception = No sex'.)
7. Perfection - If your partner constantly goes on about the way you look, telling you to change your clothes, wear make-up, tell you to gain or lose weight or just insult your looks, then obviously they don't love you the way you are and they want to change you for what they want. If that's the case, let them go find the person that they want, whilst you go find a partner who treats you better and loves you for who you are!
8. Trust - If you trust your partner but they don't trust you, that can cause many problems and can lead to possessiveness and jealousy which you wish to avoid. Trust is very important in a relationship and if you have barely any, resulting in multiple arguments about trust issues, then you can wave goodbye to the whole relationship. Every now and then, you will have to let your partner go out with other people and they will have to let you do the same. Them stopping you from going out because they're worried about who's there or what you'll get up too (they may make up another excuse for you not to go) is controlling. They shouldn't stop you from doing anything just because they have insecurity issues themselves.
9. Lying - If you find out that your partner is constantly lying about the smallest of things or makes excuses for everything, then they're not very trustworthy and you couldn't possibly trust them to do something little, let alone something big like being monogamous.
10. Taken for Granted - In the beginning, you may go on dates and the other is always on time or even early to come and see you. This usually changes later on in the relationship. It's obvious when your partner is taking you for granted when they tell you "I'll be there at 8" and they turn up at half 9. Fair enough if they have a genuine reason for being so late but if they were just lazy and weren't very eager to see you, then that's not fair to make you wait and they're clearly not as excited to see you as you are to see them. If they don't turn up on time, go out! They're wasting your time so go and spend it doing something better other than waiting on them. You shouldn't be taken for granted and you shouldn't be waiting around for them all the time!
Those are my ten tips!
Thank you for reading!
1. Care - Obviously they should care for you the same way you do. If you feel that you do a lot for them but don't get much in return or they don't really say much to you after you've done something nice for them, then that can be a huge sign that they don't really care or they're distracted by something else.
2. Listen - Communication is very important in a relationship but its not all about talking, it's about listening too! However, if you listen to your partner the majority of the time and you can't get a word in, or when you do speak, they don't seem interested at all or talk over you, then they're not only being rude, but they're obviously not caring about what you have to say. They should listen to you just as much as you listen to them so you feel like you're being heard. It's all about giving and taking fairly.
3. Jealousy - You may think a bit of jealousy is a good thing, it may even make you feel more precious to that person. We all like to feel loved and wanted, right? I guess a little bit is okay but too much of it can seriously ruin a relationship. If your partner stops you from speaking to anyone, even if its a person you don't particularly like, that's still a bad sign. By doing this, they're taking away your freedom of doing what you want. They're doing this to make it less likely that you'll run off with someone else. If they say you're looking at another person in a flirtatious manner, all the time, that's also a bad sign. It shows they don't trust you and are insecure themselves. These kind of people get very possessive and you're not an object to be possessed, so don't let them and get out of the relationship!
4. Embarrassed - If you go out with your partner and you run into their friends and they act like you're not there, don't introduce you or even ignore you when you talk, can be a sign that they're embarrassed to be with you. This is wrong. If they truly loved you, they'd want the whole world to know, so a couple friends knowing wouldn't hurt and they'd happily put up with a bit of teasing.
5. Friends - I cant emphasise enough how important it is to keep your friends close because not every relationship lasts forever and to have supportive friends would help you move on. If you push your friends away (or your partner forces you due to possessiveness), then you're ultimately pushing away your life, because your friends are your life. Without them, you'd feel lonely and you definitely feel lonely after a break up!
6. Sex - If you feel that all they want is sex, then that's all they want, not you! Sorry but it is true in most cases! You're just the object that gives them that pleasure. If every single time you see them, they want sex, even if you don't, then you can tell they're real intentions and you should leave them. Also if they ignore you when you tell them you don't want to have sex, then that's another example of them not caring for your feelings.
(Remember to always use contraception if you do have sex! Don't ever think 'I won't get pregnant this one time'... theres a huge chance of getting pregnant or getting an STI. Try following the rule, 'No contraception = No sex'.)
7. Perfection - If your partner constantly goes on about the way you look, telling you to change your clothes, wear make-up, tell you to gain or lose weight or just insult your looks, then obviously they don't love you the way you are and they want to change you for what they want. If that's the case, let them go find the person that they want, whilst you go find a partner who treats you better and loves you for who you are!
8. Trust - If you trust your partner but they don't trust you, that can cause many problems and can lead to possessiveness and jealousy which you wish to avoid. Trust is very important in a relationship and if you have barely any, resulting in multiple arguments about trust issues, then you can wave goodbye to the whole relationship. Every now and then, you will have to let your partner go out with other people and they will have to let you do the same. Them stopping you from going out because they're worried about who's there or what you'll get up too (they may make up another excuse for you not to go) is controlling. They shouldn't stop you from doing anything just because they have insecurity issues themselves.
9. Lying - If you find out that your partner is constantly lying about the smallest of things or makes excuses for everything, then they're not very trustworthy and you couldn't possibly trust them to do something little, let alone something big like being monogamous.
10. Taken for Granted - In the beginning, you may go on dates and the other is always on time or even early to come and see you. This usually changes later on in the relationship. It's obvious when your partner is taking you for granted when they tell you "I'll be there at 8" and they turn up at half 9. Fair enough if they have a genuine reason for being so late but if they were just lazy and weren't very eager to see you, then that's not fair to make you wait and they're clearly not as excited to see you as you are to see them. If they don't turn up on time, go out! They're wasting your time so go and spend it doing something better other than waiting on them. You shouldn't be taken for granted and you shouldn't be waiting around for them all the time!
Those are my ten tips!
Thank you for reading!
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