never say never :giggle:Just reitterating, I'm not interested in advice, I'm interested in hearing other people's perspectives.
I've already made my mind up either way.
I have lived by this motto and given this advice to my children as well. If you want children some day, first get a good education, work, save money for a car and home and then have kids. Not only do children make your life fulfilled but can also be trying at times. I thank God I have three wonderful children and grandchild to enjoy.
I have lived by this motto and given this advice to my children as well. If you want children some day, first get a good education, work, save money for a car and home and then have kids. Not only do children make your life fulfilled but can also be trying at times. I thank God I have three wonderful children and grandchild to enjoy.
I was married as well at the age of 18. Engaged at 17. Fighting for the divorce now.lol, yeah, I got engaged at 21, which was pretty unheardof in my circle.
Again, wasn't thinking of regretting it, just interested in other people's perspectives.
And for your records, we're having a bub early next year.
I was 16 when I met my boyfriend. We both finished high school and I went off to college and received an associates degree in child care. My boyfriend started a landscaping business. After I finished college I opened up a nursery school. With both of us working we were able to purchase a house together. I moved my nursery school into the house we purchased and he ran his landscaping business from that house as well since it had a huge garage separate from the house. During that time we were able to go to bars, vacations and just take off and do things together when ever we wanted to. When I turned 27 we decided to start a family. I ended my day care center. We married and I became his secretary for the landscaping business. I have three children my last one I had when I was 35. I had so much fun....I mean lots of fun in my teens and twenties, that I was so grateful I waited to have kids.
When I was 18 my biological clock was echoing in my ears to have a kid. Since so many of my friends were having one, I wanted one as well. I look back and was grateful for not having one at such an early age. I would of missed out on a lifetime of adventure and fun. Once you have children you can't go out on the weekends staying up until 1-2 in the morning. Your life is for your children.
I have a niece who at 17 decide to get pregnant and who took care of her baby but my in-laws because all she wanted to do was to go out and party. She was to young to have a child and she didn't have the motherly instincts. Now all three of my children have noticed how my niece ran her life. And some of my daughters friends are having babies and she knows that you are literately strapped down for life if you have a child at an early age.
This is why I tell my children get a good education, job, set yourself up financially (since babies are very expensive) have fun while you can and then settle down with the person you love and have a few children. Believe me you will not regret it. And on that note....just for your records when I met my boyfriend at 16 and I married him we have been together for 37 years.
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