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I guess boys too.....
My DD is 9 and an only child. She has NEVER spent one night away from DH and me (not even by a relative.) Never had a need or desire for her too (nor did she.) She has had many of sleepovers at our house with quite a few of her friends/cousins. No one has ever pressured her until now.
DD has a friend that has slept here a few times. We have included her in trips to the mall and the zoo. We invited her last year to DD's birthday party and EOS pool party. She spent New Years Eve here for a sleepover with DD and a few other friends. Always seemed fine.
Well she invited DD over for a sleepover this past weekend which DD said yes to, but as the time drew closer to go, DD went into full panic mode. Mind you, I had her packed and ready to go. She was very nervous and pacing the floor. She pulled me aside and asked if she could go for a playdate and come home to go to bed. I asked the mother if that was reasonable and she said no, not tonight.
She did attempt a sleepover a couple of years ago by another friends house which resulted in DH picking her up at midnight.
Anyway, on to the part that is driving me insane. THE MOTHER of the other girl is pitching a fit. She sent me a text telling me that I should have made my DD follow through with her "promise" to sleepover at their house. She said my DD has disappointed her DD on several occasions because she will not sleepover. This is the only real invite. It has been mentioned in passing, in joking, whatever, but I have ALWAYS said DD is a nervous Nelly. She doesn't want to sleepover anywhere.
I tell ALL of her friends/parents she will sleepover when SHE is ready. I will not force her.
I remember when I was in third grade, I attempted my first sleepover which resulted in me having dry heaves from nerves on my girlfriends living room floor. My mom came and got me. Just as my mom thought - I OUT GREW IT.
Am I the only one that thinks this mother is pushy? My DD's friend is now causing problems in school (well at least trying to. Fortunately, DD is very popular.) They are in the same class and she barely talks to DD and is trying to turn her friends against her by bad mouthing DD. THANK THE LORD it is not working. Upon leaving school yesterday, DD waved to this mother and she purposely did not acknowledge DD.
It's sad because the girl will talk nice to DD and then turn mean.
I honestly think it is the girl's mother telling her to be disrespectful to DD.
Am I the only one who doesn't see it as a problem that DD got nervous and could not sleepover. Surely, my DD cannot be alone!?!?!?!
Sorry so long and thank you for reading. I guess this was kind of a vent, but I was also looking for opinions.
My DD is 9 and an only child. She has NEVER spent one night away from DH and me (not even by a relative.) Never had a need or desire for her too (nor did she.) She has had many of sleepovers at our house with quite a few of her friends/cousins. No one has ever pressured her until now.
DD has a friend that has slept here a few times. We have included her in trips to the mall and the zoo. We invited her last year to DD's birthday party and EOS pool party. She spent New Years Eve here for a sleepover with DD and a few other friends. Always seemed fine.
Well she invited DD over for a sleepover this past weekend which DD said yes to, but as the time drew closer to go, DD went into full panic mode. Mind you, I had her packed and ready to go. She was very nervous and pacing the floor. She pulled me aside and asked if she could go for a playdate and come home to go to bed. I asked the mother if that was reasonable and she said no, not tonight.
She did attempt a sleepover a couple of years ago by another friends house which resulted in DH picking her up at midnight.
Anyway, on to the part that is driving me insane. THE MOTHER of the other girl is pitching a fit. She sent me a text telling me that I should have made my DD follow through with her "promise" to sleepover at their house. She said my DD has disappointed her DD on several occasions because she will not sleepover. This is the only real invite. It has been mentioned in passing, in joking, whatever, but I have ALWAYS said DD is a nervous Nelly. She doesn't want to sleepover anywhere.
I tell ALL of her friends/parents she will sleepover when SHE is ready. I will not force her.
I remember when I was in third grade, I attempted my first sleepover which resulted in me having dry heaves from nerves on my girlfriends living room floor. My mom came and got me. Just as my mom thought - I OUT GREW IT.
Am I the only one that thinks this mother is pushy? My DD's friend is now causing problems in school (well at least trying to. Fortunately, DD is very popular.) They are in the same class and she barely talks to DD and is trying to turn her friends against her by bad mouthing DD. THANK THE LORD it is not working. Upon leaving school yesterday, DD waved to this mother and she purposely did not acknowledge DD.
It's sad because the girl will talk nice to DD and then turn mean.
I honestly think it is the girl's mother telling her to be disrespectful to DD.
Am I the only one who doesn't see it as a problem that DD got nervous and could not sleepover. Surely, my DD cannot be alone!?!?!?!
Sorry so long and thank you for reading. I guess this was kind of a vent, but I was also looking for opinions.