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This is a bit complicated. As with most people I flirt with members of the opposite sex. It is just something that happens, sometimes it is controlled but most of the time it is by accident. This happens in coffee shops, stores, with customers, but mostly with my male friends. Ever since high school most of my guy friends have developed feelings for me because they get the idea that I like them, in a "more than friends" kind of way, then they ask me out and if I say no then things get weird. But I have a tendancy to laugh and be a generally friendly person with everyone and I have mentioned this to my girl friends and they haven't noticed anything. However, my guy friends all think that I flirt with them. Now I have trying to curb my flirting but I am not going to change my personality to a cold **** in order to avoid stupid misunderstandings.
This misunderstanding has happened recently to a really good friend of mine. We have known eachother for a long time, and we hung out a lot, went on a roadtrip together (slept in seperate beds) he would stay over and my place and me at his, again in seperate beds. But I always knew that he had feelings for me, but I didn't know how to deal with it, or maybe I didn't want the same that had happened to other friendships to happen to this one. So I ignored it. I moved away, a couple of hours driving, and I told him that I knew about his feelings for me for a while. He got mad at me and we had a fight. Well we haven't talked for a month, I used that month to really think about it, and now I want to meet him and talk to him. I still don't feel that way towards him, and he told me he stopped having those feelings, so why can't we be friends again. He says he doesn't want to talk to me until I have sorted things out. Well I have and now I want to renew our friendship.
I am at a lost as to what I should do.
Help if you can
This misunderstanding has happened recently to a really good friend of mine. We have known eachother for a long time, and we hung out a lot, went on a roadtrip together (slept in seperate beds) he would stay over and my place and me at his, again in seperate beds. But I always knew that he had feelings for me, but I didn't know how to deal with it, or maybe I didn't want the same that had happened to other friendships to happen to this one. So I ignored it. I moved away, a couple of hours driving, and I told him that I knew about his feelings for me for a while. He got mad at me and we had a fight. Well we haven't talked for a month, I used that month to really think about it, and now I want to meet him and talk to him. I still don't feel that way towards him, and he told me he stopped having those feelings, so why can't we be friends again. He says he doesn't want to talk to me until I have sorted things out. Well I have and now I want to renew our friendship.
I am at a lost as to what I should do.
Help if you can