I can't stand it when girls say their friends are "cute" before introducing me to them. Because, inevitably, "she's cute" is like a girl's way of saying "I wouldn't **** her even if I had a ****." Animal exhibits at a zoo are cute, I'll admit, but those kinds of characteristics are not so cute on a human. If your friend has as much facial hair as a chimpanzee, she's NOT CUTE. Buck teeth are cute on a beaver, but NOT on a person. If she weighs more than a pickup truck, there isn't a room dark enough nor alcohol poisoning severe enough to make her seem cute. She might have the most amazing personality, but I'm sorry, everyone is shallow to a degree. My dog has a great personality too, but I'm not trying to set up my guy friends with her.
So from now on, please don't say "she's cute" when you mean "she has an amazing personality, but she resembles a horse's ****." It's just not fair to us. It gets our hopes up... along with other parts. Don't do that if I'm going to be met by a "cute" uni-brow and a beer gut to rival Jimmy Kimmel. I just might flip out next time.
at least you have friends that are trying to hook you up tho' i completely agree...to some degree everybody is shallow. i think guys need SOMETHING that they can find physically attractive in a woman to build a relationship around. not knock-you-on-your-butt-holy-crap-she's-a-supermodel attractive, but something. personality can only make up for so much. but in a FRIEND, then i think attractiveness gets kicked out the window (moreso at least). still...be happy your friends are trying
I'm sorry it sounds harsh, but it's the truth. The girl doesn't need to be gorgeous. But there at least has to be some aspect of her that I find physically attractive. Whether it be eyes, hair, nose, body... anything. If she has a personality to match: bonus! It sucks when you meet someone who's really hot but has the personality of a rock. Such a waste of looks.
I just wish girls would be honest about SOMETHING for once. Say "She's a cool girl to hang out with, but you won't be attracted to her", not "she's cute." That's just so annoying. And such a let down when you find out that apparently cuteness is in the eyes of the beholder. I'm sorry, but I think I speak for most men when I say that personality alone isn't going to give me a hard on. My imagination only goes so far. A room can get pretty dark, but if you still feel like you're humping a whale... you get the picture.
As for the friends playing matchmaker thing, it's not as good as it might sound. Mostly it's just a kick in the **** to get me to go meet people, because I'd usually be perfectly content ignoring society to stay in and read a book rather than deal with obnoxious people at the bars around here every night.
You're a riot, ski - I love reading your stuff! You want HONESTY from friends who are trying to set you up? Ain't gonna happen, my friend. ESPECIALLY from a girl. You're better off with the personal ads.
Haha, isn't that the TRUTH! when girls say that they're just tiptoeing around the lines and making "Cute" look like a complement. But its come to be an insult!
Cute means, bagged lunch :eusa_sile Sorry for the evil pun! Haha :eusa_danc
Girls should just be more assertive when describing their girlfriends
yea you have a point but do u know her? i mean yea people might not look that great but jeez @leats talk to her. I mean what u think ur rep will be ruined for that...boys annoy me.
rep what? ain't got one of those. being friends is fine i guess. homely people usually have attractive friends... what, who said that? not me.:eusa_whis
Lol ski silly person. But still if everyone was like 'i don't care about looks' then the world would msot probably be slightly betetr, we wouldn't have lots of people being lonely so much *sigh* but then we are a society based on fashion and perfectness
Well, being attracted to someone is as much instinctual as logical. I've been attracted to people before that have surprised me, where in my head I'm thinking "logically, I should not find this person attractive...and yet, for some strange reason, I do."
I think it's only fair to the person you are with that you find them at least a little bit sexy...everyone likes to feel attractive, and if you found out your own girlfriend/boyfriend was only with you because of you personality...well, I think that would hurt your feelings. I certainly wouldn't like it...but that could just be me. But, I'm **** fine, so I don't have that problem :eusa_ange hehehe.
lol...me?? ego?? what???? not my fault i'm absolutely perfect in every single perfect way! :D lol.
anyway, i think i said somewhere in here already that there has to be SOMETHING that you find attractive about a partner. dimples, calves, nose, a sparkle in the eye, the way she flings her hair, earlobes, just SOMETHING that you can look forward to. personality is very very important, don't get me wrong here, no/bad personalities completely trump looks and i mean completely, and i hate to say it but well, if you are pug ugly, to the vast majority of men, well, you are friend material, someone you don't mind hanging out with but not someone that you want to be with romantically. it's a harsh truth. women seem to be able to get over looks a lot more than men can. attraction also tends to have a lot to do with subliminal stuff that we don't even realize. we are naturally attracted to healthy/fit people because they have the best chance of survival, and thus the best chance of surviving child birth and then raising the child (both men and women here i'm talking about). signs of healthy people tend to be things like cleanliness, athleticly fit (ie. toned bodies), tall (generally, not freakishly tall of course...a 7 foot woman? that'd be...awkward lol), clean skin, for women wide hips, etc. etc. etc. these are things that humans are inherently drawn to, it's just the way we are. does that mean you have to be rail thin? no. does this mean guys have to be uber-buff? no. but a happy medium is good and attractive to many many people.
I think your subconscious has tastes you don't realise as well. For some reason, I feel attracted to tiny girls...you know, the type that are barely over 5 feet tall. Don't get me wrong, I still feel attracted to a pretty face, but it seems to be stronger with short people...
Wait...Dwarves...short.... DARN! I DO have a pervy attraction to Dwarves!
OK, Djeuve now you scaring ME!!! I think it's true that everyone has something unique and attractive about them. We as a society have all but been TRAINED to go after really good-looking people. I have a rule - I will NEVER be with anyone better looking than myself. Not that I'd stop traffic or anything but it's a rule. I have ALWAYS found something attractive in what my friends and peers would consider unattractive. I was dating a guy right before I married MrD that many people considered "OK" looking but nothing to look at twice. I went CRAZY over this guy because of his VOICE, and nothing else around it mattered. My High School boyfriend was cute (I say that at the risk of abandonment...) but wasn't one of THE guys to go after. I loved his eyes and his hands. Maybe I'm weird
You aren't weird MrsD. Sometimes it's the oddest things about a person that do it for me. I've got a thing for good haircuts, but besides that there have been many weird things...like voice, or the way they walk...the list goes on...
tho' i completely agree...to some degree everybody is shallow. i think guys need SOMETHING that they can find physically attractive in a woman to build a relationship around. not knock-you-on-your-butt-holy-crap-she's-a-supermodel attractive, but something. personality can only make up for so much. but in a FRIEND, then i think attractiveness gets kicked out the window (moreso at least). still...be happy your friends are trying 
