as soon as you know it's love? when there's a baby in the picture? when is it inappropriate? is it ever inappropriate? when do you think it's best for you, or anyone else for that matter, to get hitched?
Marriage should be seen as permanent, because that's when two people who love each other make their relationship public, official, and permanent - one hopes. Speaking personally I'd only get married when having a secure income and being able to provide a home, so that one day my partner and I could have children. Not that presently I have a partner, and, don't know when that time will be, because when its right to get married, completely depends on the individual(s).
Raising kids costs money. Even the price of disposable nappies is expensive, unless one's going to shove ****ty cotton nappies in the washing machine every other day. And babies soon grow to be toddlers...
When both of you are willing to be together forever. But also, not until you're sure you know them. Got in a relationship two months ago and are now engaged? You're an idiot. Proposing just because she's pregnant? You're an idiot.
I think you should only enter into marriage, at this point, if you do intend for the relationship to be permanent. I'm sick of seeing divorces everywhere. It's ****ed up a lot of families.
Honestly I think we should have something similar to handfastings where these relationships can be pre-arranged to last a certain amount of time, and renewed if the couple is still happy with it.
Honestly, I think being emotionally ready for marriage is a completely different thing to being ready at all. Speaking for myself here, I'm ready for engagement, not marriage or babies...plus we don't have the money to do any of this. It's all very dependent
Unfortunately, money has to be saved and that's after paying utility bills, food, clothing, car costs and suchlike has to be earnt. And that means having a secure job, one thats going to last.
The cost of living in this country alone is prohibitive. But if we are totally 100% committed to the one we love, only time will find a way. When that will be, we don't know. But if our love is so strong, then we have to find patience somewhere and get on with living until the time is right. Not forgetting though, that we are young, and have all the time in the world to hold hands, to embrace and kiss and cuddle up in the meantime. Speaking personally.
Of course. I think if money was no object, we could comfortably just rely on feelings but unfortunately money does halt things a bit until you're sorted...but in a way I think that struggle shows how important it is to you both rather than just hopping into marriage willy nilly
I know that in owning and running three hugely successful businesses, I am more than extremely fortunate in the fact that I have absolutely no money worries whatsoever.
I also own the beautiful cottage that my beloved late grandfather left to me, so again I am so lucky that everything in my life is stable.
However I would gladly give the lot away just to have him (my grandfather) back in my life.
Now some of you will already know that I have had a very long term relationship (almost ten years) with Jack, who is now both my fianc? and business partner and whom I have lived with for the past six years.
For the past two years I have been engaged to be married to him, and this will happen a year this coming September.
Why the long wait you may very well ask....The simple answer is that we wanted to at least enjoy quality time together before totally committing ourselves, and hopefully starting a family.
We now know that the time is right to take this next huge step in our lives....There is no magic or secret as to knowing when the time is right, it is (at least in our experience) just something that will either happen or not happen in one's life.
In our case it has very much been not just following our hearts, but also listening to what our heads have been telling us.
