Wow. Does she not like your DH or something? Did she not learn love from her Mom or something?
Sounds like keeping an emotional distance is a good idea. :huggy:
Thanks!
I have a very small extended family. My mom has one sister. Their mom (my grandma), is 93 and I love her dearly!! BUT grandma totally plays her 2 daughters (and my cousin) off on each other for attention, favors, trips, etc, and has for as long as I can remember; it's gotten a lot worse since my grandpa died in the late '80's. AND my aunt is grandma's favorite and lives nearer to grandma. So I know my mom feels left out -- I remember consoling her about this on my birthday last year when she was crying on the phone because of something grandma did or said to her.
The generous/mean dichotomy isn't limited to just me -- she seems to take turns dishing it out on all her kids. My 2 sisters and brother (and future SIL) and I are all close to each other now as adults and I think she might be jealous of that. I can tell she's checking up on how close we are and how often we talk... like when she gets some new bit of information, she'll call me and give me some info about my sister, and then she'll ask me if my sis told me that already... it's as if my mom wants to know she found out first. Ugh. I don't even care who found out first!
My younger sis and my brother are both getting married next spring. this stresses my mom out a LOT and I don't completely understand why. She's not paying anything for either wedding, but she has a lot of expectations and demands (she is pushing my sister around a lot!) and I just don't
get why she can't be happy for them both and just enjoy what the couples want to do.
As to my husband, I don't know why she wouldn't like him, but yeah, we kinda get that vibe (she also had/has issues with my older sis' husband, my brother's fiance, and my younger sis' boyfriends.. ). My husband is the most loving and supportive person I've ever met. He has always, always been there for me, listened and taken care of me, something I can't really say about her.