Thanks everyone...but to clarify even more he ALWAYS remembers to give the grandkids a gift so DH felt like it was a particular snub this yr. despite the fact that DH is the only one who stops by to visit on any kind of frequent basis..sad. We believe it is the influence of his EVIL female roommate...she always has him doing stuff for her and telling him NOT to do stuff for his kids/grandkids...I've washed my hands of them but DH CANNOT let it go. I'm sad for him.