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Just curious. I can't help but think when I see people that live half an hour away from each other that it isn't really an LDR seeing as I live a 16 hour drive away from my partner.
Is a LDR based on the distance between each other, how often you get to see each other etc. and a number on your beliefs on it would be good too (e.g. 1 hour drive = LDR).
 
I think for me and Lauren we count a lot of other factors when stating our relationship is long distance. Apart from the distance (one hour away), we have to contend with the frequency in which we can see each-other, which can be anything from a week to several months (owing to work commitments, her family commitments and her parents generally dictating what we do/where we go/when we meet).
 
I think a number of factors contribute to what classifies it as a LDR; the distance, how you met and how often you see each other.
For example, I met my first boyfriend online, he lived half an hour away but I only saw him once a week because of the distance and the petrol costs. In the beginning, it was kind of LDR, but it felt more like a normal relationship because we saw each other weekly or fortnightly.
My current relationship could be considered the normal kind of relationship; we met each other, got to know each other and got together all in person. However, we see each other every day, sometimes twice a day for him to fit me into his extremely busy schedule, because he literally lives down the road from me! It's only like a 3 minute walk to each others houses! For some people, seeing your partner every day could be deemed unhealthy or abnormal. So I think relationships and what they could be classed as is based on very subjective views of other people.
Personally, I'd count LDR's as relationships which started online and stayed online for a long time due to distance and when you do get to meet them, it's only like every couple months or something. If they moved closer and saw each other more regularly, or even moved in together, I wouldn't consider it a LDR any more.
 
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I'm two hours from my boyfriend by public transport. I see him every week but I still consider us to be LDR. It's up to the person whether they want to call themselves LDR or not I feel
 
If you're at least a county away from each other, it's an LDR. An hour or two on a bus doesn't count; driving yourself can cut that down to 45 minutes, sometimes less.

True long distance would be separate countries.
 
Rebecca Chambers said:
If you're at least a county away from each other, it's an LDR. An hour or two on a bus doesn't count; driving yourself can cut that down to 45 minutes, sometimes less.

True long distance would be separate countries.
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What about someone who's in the north west and a partner in the south east of a big country like America for example?
 
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