oh boy... I have been on both ends of this. and I know it sucks your dh was so honest, however you know now a days there are cameras EVERYWHERE. or nosey people. lol anyhow, I hate to say it, but she seems persistent on what she wants done. and the problem is your dh left evidence admitting to what he had unintentionally done. she can take you to court if you refuse to pay her the estimated amount (sounds like her son is doing all the talking), and going to court could mean more money out of your pocket (if you have to take off of work, or gas $ to go there,etc) her car does appear to be in good shape for the year it is from your pics, so she is entitled to have it look as it had prior to your car door hitting hers. I know i would expect the same, I take pride in my car and I was VERY mad when someone dinged it up. And they had to pay, I did 2 different estimates, and was nice by going with the tiny bit cheaper one for their favor, however I did not have to do so. and also, like i said i have been on both sides, act of nature is nothing, i remember the cops being called when the guy next to me claimed my son's door hit his, mind you, there was no paint on his car from mine, and his azz was up at the door no where in sight to visually see it, the cops came and told me that it doesn't matter how it happened, whether it was cuz of gust of wind, my son opening it up a tad bit too much, I can deny his claim, but he had the right to take me to court. he said that the door lined up with the dent and was going to put it in the report. it just wasn't worth it to me to fight it, even after discussing it with my car insurance. (btw I didn't have to pay a deductible, so maybe you should inquire through your insurance to confirm you guys would be responsible for a deductible). as far as how she spends the money you send her, I hate to say it, she is entitled to do whatever it is she wants with it. now from watching court shows: i seen a case where the girl sold the car, and the judge still ordered the defendent to pay, she said it didn't matter that she sold the car, she told the defendent if you paid her the money prior to coming to court, maybe she would have fixed the dent, but theres evidence of what you did, and now you have to pay. that was shocking to me, i wouldn't think that'd be possible. but i guess anything is possible.
*** I hope I don't come off rude. I just have been in both situations, as the person hitting someone, and as someone hitting me (and unfortunately I have had someone hit me more ) and just sharing with you what happened with my situations.
bottom line, like charlieq said, i would teach dh to be decent and honest, with a fine line, oopsie i forgot to put my info.
sorry for the rant.
*** I hope I don't come off rude. I just have been in both situations, as the person hitting someone, and as someone hitting me (and unfortunately I have had someone hit me more ) and just sharing with you what happened with my situations.
bottom line, like charlieq said, i would teach dh to be decent and honest, with a fine line, oopsie i forgot to put my info.
sorry for the rant.
