He's divorced, I'd be concerned if he's rushing things.
do you seriously want kids?? Think about it! If yes, I will pay you $1000.00 CASH to take mine for a week. You cannot bring him back before the whole week is up. Then let us know if you still want children!:giggles:
NoHio, you're only a baby. I HATED children when I was your age, couldn't see having them, would probably have made DCFS mother of the year! Had my first at 37, figured if it didn't work out I at least had a down payment on a house (kidding - I already owned my house).
Sometimes. I had a ring on my finger at 7 months of dating. Been married 14 years in October.
My advice coming from a counselling background would be that marriage and raising children is a huge challenge when you are deeply in love and commited to each other. Any marriage you have to talk yourself into is one you will definitely regret agreeing to.
Having children is amazing and so is being married but being married to someone you don't love can be a level of misery hard to imagine. Someone you aren't really digging is going to drive you nuts with the day to day annoyances. What's gross will be disgusting, little daily things will breed resentment. It's not fair to your future children to put them through all the drama of a failing marriage and the trauma of losing a parent in their daily lives.
Having children also changes your life. Your body will change in ways you can't imagine. At first you will be so sleep deprived you can't see straight. You are going to need a partner that understands you and supports you even when he is short on sleep too. Then there are the millions of decisions about how you parent this child. Circumcision? Vaccinations? Diapering? Discipline? Potty Training? Rules and expectations? and on and on. Are you on the same page on these? Will he just agree to anything to get you to marry him?
Divorce is terrible for your credit and finances, especially when you stay home. I have two SAHM friends going through divorces right now. Each has 2 kids under 4. Nobody wins.
As others said, YOU deserve more, and so do the future kids, and even Mr Right Now.
That's my 2 cents....I've just seen too many women make this mistake and then I've seen the pain it caused and the regrets that they didn't realize how good their lives were without a man. You always love your children but there is just such a cost to a marriage you aren't really in to.
:lol:Just met a guy, talking marriage & babies? Jolene is that you? :hides:
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Why did they divorce?
She became obsessed with church.
What does the first wife look like?
I believe he said she was Spanish, never seen her.
Have you met her yet? Nope and don't plan to.
I'm of the mindset that you deserve a prince...if you marry some sap now, you might miss the opportunity to nab your prince....
I have thought about this too, but if I keep waiting....no kids.
Do you really need this man? No, it took me over a year to even get to this point with this dude. Off and on, off and on....
What if a better Mr. Right now comes along next week and looks like Lex Luthor?
Quicky Mexico divorce!
Why can't you adopt Christina and Christopher like Joan Crawford did?
I don't have Greg to do the papers.
btw, I think the worse catastrophe that can happen to a person, man or woman is
to be with someone just because they are pressured or their bio clock is ticking. no sparks, no love, no money involved. they just want ppl to see they're taken.
you never realize how good your life is while you were alone, UNTIL you meet someone who ruins your life.
I have a friend who is the clingy type, she can't live without a man and would rather have someone (or anyone) even if they abuse her.:hurt:
:lol:Just met a guy, talking marriage & babies? Jolene is that you? :hides:
:giggles:
c'mon, don't you remember when routine is meet a guy, the next day he sweeps you off your feet, then you're engaged, next thing you're buying a house together,:lol:
Been on and off for over a year with this dude.
c'mon, don't you remember when routine is meet a guy, the next day he sweeps you off your feet, then you're engaged, next thing you're buying a house together,
then you buy a washer and dryer and then he steals the washer and dryer he bought with his money.
remember all those? :lol:
:lol: I was like huh? Oooooh yeah.c'mon, don't you remember when routine is meet a guy, the next day he sweeps you off your feet, then you're engaged, next thing you're buying a house together,
then you buy a washer and dryer and then he steals the washer and dryer he bought with his money.
remember all those? :lol:
I'm thinking on the side of the kids.
Would you rather pick a person that you think would be a good husband or a good father? Husbands come and go nowadays, but you only get one father. I don't think I'm doing this for me, as much as knowing if I have kids, I know that they would have a good father.
Stupid? As I stand right now I don't know if it is being selfish or selfless. It's a very very fine line.
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