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I'm relatively young (26) and I've usually just gone to all the holiday events with my family. My dad's family is super anal and created something like a 10 year calendar of who is supposed to have what holiday each year. Even though we knew who was having it, the host always called everyone to tell them what to come and what time that we were eating. My parents just told me when to come and whatnot. My mom's family is more up in the air as to who was having it, but everyone knew the plan well in advance.
So DH and I have been married for 3 years and we have never gotten any formal invitation to any of the holidays. If we were lucky we would get a call from his mom telling us about it the day before. As a new member to the family I felt really left out and uninformed. DH said that the same people have it each year and you just show up. Apparently though some people know about Thanksgiving. His cousin said that the aunt that was hosting it had to work the next day so it would start earlier than normal....okay well it would have been nice to know that from the host or DS's mom. DH has voiced his opinion that I would like to know in advance about stuff and nothing has changed.
I feel like I am nice, I always bring a dish to share, and I offer to clean up. I'm 26, married, and have a son. When do we start getting treated like adults?
I am majorly PMSing, and I just want to spend the holidays with my family. I just don't want to feel so left out....
So DH and I have been married for 3 years and we have never gotten any formal invitation to any of the holidays. If we were lucky we would get a call from his mom telling us about it the day before. As a new member to the family I felt really left out and uninformed. DH said that the same people have it each year and you just show up. Apparently though some people know about Thanksgiving. His cousin said that the aunt that was hosting it had to work the next day so it would start earlier than normal....okay well it would have been nice to know that from the host or DS's mom. DH has voiced his opinion that I would like to know in advance about stuff and nothing has changed.
I feel like I am nice, I always bring a dish to share, and I offer to clean up. I'm 26, married, and have a son. When do we start getting treated like adults?
I am majorly PMSing, and I just want to spend the holidays with my family. I just don't want to feel so left out....