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KG - it helps to have an advance directive, like a letter to yourself.

Now, while you are clearly in your right mind, write a letter to yourself and give it to your husband. Say something like - right now I am in my right mind, the baby is due in xx/xx and this is my solemn vow to myself that after I have the baby:

1) I will not hide my feelings. I will ask for help when I need it.
2) My DH has permission to not only say "are you alright" but "are you crazy, do you have anxiety, do you need meds?" and I will listen to him
3) If my DH thinks something is off I will go to the doctor without delay, and he will go with me
4) I will share any "off" thoughts with someone(s) I trust completely, or even those who are mostly anonymous (like CW people) and if they say I need to go to the doctor to be checked, I will tell my husband and we will go to the doctor.
5) I gave my DH cell # to >thisperson< who I clearly trust their judgment and if I make weird FB/CW statements they will text him to tell on me.

We don't always think clearly when impaired. I'm not saying you will be impaired. Just that if you are, a letter from yourself is a good reminder that you, at least in the past, recognized this might happen, and now you might not be yourself.

Give a copy to your DH and put a copy in your undie drawer, in case of emergency.

After my sister had her brain tumor I went VERY DETAILED with my advance letters to myself. Helped immensely when I broke my leg and was not really capable of making decisions.

PPD is very random and unpredictable. We will hope you don't have any of this issue at all :hug:
 
I did some extra reading about PPD b/c I was sooooo emotional when I was PG with Abby. DH was the first one to bring it up, and I'm really glad that he felt comfortable saying that he was worried about PPD with me being so **** moody!

He mentioned it again in the hospital to my midwife/dr and she told him what to look out for but also reminded that some moodiness is normal.

I know it's repetitive of other posts, but basically warned him about a new mom unwilling to get out of bed, not wanting to shower, ignoring baby's needs.

:huggy:

KG I know you're going to be such an awesome mommy :bliss:
 
Kerri I just read your FB post - be careful about warming up with the help of your oven! I'm sure you know this but JIC! I don't need you getting carbon monoxide poisoning!
 
mrsred1 said:
I did some extra reading about PPD b/c I was sooooo emotional when I was PG with Abby. DH was the first one to bring it up, and I'm really glad that he felt comfortable saying that he was worried about PPD with me being so **** moody!

He mentioned it again in the hospital to my midwife/dr and she told him what to look out for but also reminded that some moodiness is normal.

I know it's repetitive of other posts, but basically warned him about a new mom unwilling to get out of bed, not wanting to shower, ignoring baby's needs.

:huggy:

KG I know you're going to be such an awesome mommy :bliss:
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Remember there is a big difference between feeling too tired to get out of bed & not having the time to shower than being unwilling to get out of bed or not wanting a shower or ignoring the baby's needs.

I don't know any mom of a newborn who isn't tired & desperate for a bit of time to herself just to shower.

Yep, she will be a great mommy.
 
sucks to have a 530 am appt at the dentist for a root canal--and find out he doesnt even have any "good" coupons out

whats with the 55 cent reach mouthwash--I was looking for the wonderful $2 off any reach that he had out last time

LOL
 
focadima said:
sucks to have a 530 am appt at the dentist for a root canal--and find out he doesnt even have any "good" coupons out

whats with the 55 cent reach mouthwash--I was looking for the wonderful $2 off any reach that he had out last time

LOL
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I got $1/1 at the dentist office. Never saw $2/1. Nice find!
 
unfortunately I found them with only 2 weeks left on them--and it was the holiday season--I wanted to get that overage at walmart
major fail on my part

they had $1 reach ones--but I already have a healthy stack of those
 
Red-
I LOVE your signature.

I was teaching a homebound student and her brother was making his mom's vibrator bounce along the kitchen floor.

the dad shouted, "Your mom told you not to go in her room!"

I was too young and stupid to even get what it was until I thought it through on the way home.

Ahhh...good times...good times....
 
I know it's repetitive of other posts, but basically warned him about a new mom unwilling to get out of bed, not wanting to shower, ignoring baby's needs.

my 'baby' is four...can THAT be why I don't want to get out of bed? a relapse, perhaps?
 
I think it is really great that doctors are taking PPD seriously now. When I had my kids 14 & 18 years ago, nothing was said about it to me. Women suffering from this 10-20+ years ago must have felt very alone...and very crazy with no one to really talk to about it. It's good to know that now women can know they aren't crazy and they aren't alone and that while PPD isn't "normal" it is "common." Makes me think a lot about Andrea Yates and those poor kids. If only she'd gotten the help she deserved.
 
mrsred1 said:
I know it's repetitive of other posts, but basically warned him about a new mom unwilling to get out of bed, not wanting to shower, ignoring baby's needs.

:huggy:

KG I know you're going to be such an awesome mommy :bliss:
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thanks red, and thanks to everyone who shared their experiences. Jeni, I am so sorry about the loss of your friend :huggy: Thank you for talking about it openly.

I hear stories like Jeni's friend and canadia's SIL and I want to make myself aware before it gets to that point, KWIM? So I'm looking for the early warning signs, how soon after birth this can hit, etc. I'm going to talk to my doc about this too. I don't want to have to wait until 6 weeks postpartum if I need help before that.
 
KG, did you have a shower? I might have missed your re-cap. Did you get all of the baby contraptions, like a bouncy seat, etc? Those "baby containment systems" were a life saver for me. Makes showering & housework & cooking so much easier. The bouncy seat in particular.
 
KG said:
thanks red, and thanks to everyone who shared their experiences. Jeni, I am so sorry about the loss of your friend :huggy: Thank you for talking about it openly.

I hear stories like Jeni's friend and canadia's SIL and I want to make myself aware before it gets to that point, KWIM? So I'm looking for the early warning signs, how soon after birth this can hit, etc. I'm going to talk to my doc about this too. I don't want to have to wait until 6 weeks postpartum if I need help before that.
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With DS, post partum was okay. Nothing major. With DD, it was a different story because the hormone shift was so drastic for me. I was jittery, jumpy, felt like I was suffocating, couldn't sleep, was kind of paranoid. Doc put me on estrogen which helped, but it was a rough couple weeks until the hormones in my body reset.

You will have a night where you are so tired, you will do nothing but cry. It is normal. Like everyone said, there is a difference between being tired and overwhelmed and being depressed.

Talk to us, because it was my cw people who helped keep me sane during the first couple weeks after Dorothy was born.
 
dragonfly said:
KG, did you have a shower? I might have missed your re-cap. Did you get all of the baby contraptions, like a bouncy seat, etc? Those "baby containment systems" were a life saver for me. Makes showering & housework & cooking so much easier. The bouncy seat in particular.
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Thanks, I didn't want a shower at all, but people were enthusiastic and somehow we had two. One of my cats likes to sit in the bouncy seat :dunce: and in the pack n play.
 
We have heat!!!!!!! Thank you all for your good thoughts! It appears there was a blockage going to the boiler and the boiler was not getting any fuel. We did ok through the night- boiled tons of water, had 2 small electric heaters going, turned the oven on (it's electric), and oddly enough, for dd, we put her clothes in the towel warmer before she got up. DH and I thought that was a freaky gift that we would never, ever use but it came in quite handy. DH was worried about the basement, it is a finished walkout with a bathroom, and then I was afraid her would try the propane bullet heater we have for the shed.

Thankfully, he did not but when we went to unplug the electric heaters to move them, he said the cord felt like a condom coming off, like the housing was melting. We can not see how people lose thier homes to those kind of heaters. I came home from work and it is sooooo nice to be warm!!
 
KG said:
Thanks, I didn't want a shower at all, but people were enthusiastic and somehow we had two. One of my cats likes to sit in the bouncy seat :dunce: and in the pack n play.
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My dog likes to sleep in the bouncy seat (he's only 18lbs).
 
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