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Someone PLEASE help me understand this

Joy, I'm glad that this doctor sounds like the one you and your daughter need to guide you through this. As I've said before, don't worry if they want to wait just a bit longer to make sure. They would never (ever, EVER!) put your daughter's life at risk and they know that you'll want the peace of mind of being able to make the best informed decision you can.

It is hard on your daughter now to wait, but it really is for the best. I continue to pray for your both.
 
I know this may sound bad in a way but when it happened the second time in a way it was easier cause I had already been through it. I just now tell people please trey to only go to a pratice with no more than 2 doctors if possible, and if you have what feels like false contractions please go in to the doc. or to the ER. My son has a brother and sister looking out for him. If you need anything you can pm me also, this place was great support when I needed it http://www.nationalshare.org/IL.html, I again send you hugs and pray that it will turn out ok.
 
Oh rjccurrie :huggy: I'm so sorry to hear about your two little ones. I can't even imagine :pout:

Thank you for the link, I think she's really blocking it all out right now. She says she's known since the first ultrasound that there was a problem so she's had time to absorb it all. But she won't talk about it really, at least not yet. At least I can give her some resources when she is ready to deal with it. Thank you :huggy:
 
So sorry Joy!!! I would like to personally slap the Dr. that said "she is young, you can have more". It totally de-values THIS child's life! It is one of the WORST things someone can say in this situation.

I still don't understand their whole rush to do a D&C, I am not a Dr, but given some of the mistakes that have already happened and it sounds like this Dr. is good, I would feel more comfortable having him run the blood test twice and looking at the numbers to make a better decision about the status of this child. 6 weeks is very early. As someone stated, usually someone doesn't go to Doc until 8 weeks so they can hear a heartbeat.

Here are some ideas/suggestions/info if this is a mis-carriage. If you re-call, I went thru this back in April. Still going thru the grieving/healing. We named our child Raphael and he/she would have been born in mid October. When this baby's due date comes around, there will be a whole grieving process all over again. I just went and am going thru this. It is great that your daughter has named the baby. It is a great comfort and for me added value to Raphael's life. When she is ready (or perhaps you can read and then pass along) is the book "Heaven is for real". There is a certain chapter in there on miscarriage and it brought so much peace for me.

I tried to pass naturally and in the end ended up having to have a D&C. I would never want to go thru that again. I never had the "expelling drug" which may have helped/worked in my situation but I don't know. I had a friend use this on her misscarriage - which was about 2 weeks earlier along than mine and her experience was just fine. I was 9 weeks along and she was only 7 weeks. I think the earlier along you are, the better the success. She just needs to decide for herself what she is comfortable with. One of the "side-effects" of a D&C is a greater chance of another mis-carriage in the future. This is why I so adamantly wanted to do it naturally, but my body just wouldn't fully do it and then with my added complication of a cyst, I had to have it done.

what alot of people don't kniow is that you can have your baby buried. There are cemetaries that will bury your child for free. We had our child buried thru our church which did cost some $, but after the whole experience others had let me know that some cemetaries do provide this service for free.

So much more I want to write/say, but my DH has breakfast ready. Sending you big hugs and I am available to talk if you need. Saying prayers for all!
 
I don't have advice, just wanted you to know I feel for you and give you lots of :huggy: :huggy:
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New update:

DD went back to the doctor at 10 for the second blood draw. Saturday's level was 45,000. While it is not going up as much as it should, it is still going up more than they would expect it to be at this point. SO, tomorrow after they get the result from today's draw and see with their own eyes what the 48 hour rise in levels is they will schedule ANOTHER ultrasound, because they are uncomfortable with the idea of doing a D&C while the levels are still rising more than they would expect.

:surrender::surrender::surrender:

The up down, maybe maybe not wait and see is killing me. My heart hurts and I don't know what I'm supposed to be feeling.
 
I definitely want to be positive, it's just such a mixed bag. I feel like if I am grieving what all signs point to as a loss then I my brain starts playing games with me like it's going up...maybe there is hope etc. Which I know there realistically isn't but I'm afraid to put those thoughts out into the universe like I've written it off in case there is some miracle forthcoming. I'm babbling...I am sure this doesn't make sense. I'm just all upside down right now, and if I am, I know she is even though she really isn't saying much.

dragonfly said:
Hang in there. Better to wait & be positive. :huggy:
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Are they checking her progesterone level. If it is low, then she should be put on Prometrium (or the like). It stregnthens the progesterone level which potentially could make things more viable if that is the issue.
 
I don't think so? They are checking her HCG only as far as I know.

Thanks for the info, I will ask.

successful said:
Are they checking her progesterone level. If it is low, then she should be put on Prometrium (or the like). It stregnthens the progesterone level which potentially could make things more viable if that is the issue.
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Joy, I am so sorry! I didn't mean to imply that you weren't being positive. I meant it like better to be certain before doing anything. :huggy: I can't imagine how strenuous the waiting game is for both of you.
 
successful said:
Are they checking her progesterone level. If it is low, then she should be put on Prometrium (or the like). It stregnthens the progesterone level which potentially could make things more viable if that is the issue.
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:shesaid: I seriously think the progesterone supplements are the only reason I'm still pregnant at this point. I was on them from 5-12 weeks.
 
Joy, hang in there. It is for the best to check, double check, triple check and quadruple check. I know it it torture for the both of you, but you have to be strong and everyone has to be sure. I know I've said it before, pray for the best outcome and prepare for the worst.
 
I'm so sorry for all of the ups and downs. Unfortunately for so many women, this same scenario plays out time and time again. As others have said, they want to make ABSOLUTELY sure that the pregnancy is not viable before following through with the D&C.

I will pray for strength and confort for all of you.
 
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