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Someone PLEASE help me understand this

icoupon2 said:
Well, I'm batting a 1,000 tonight. We went to Kohl's for some retail therapy, we were having a nice time (and getting free stuff with the 10/10's) until on my quest to find a new register I waltzed us right into the baby department. :faint: That was it for her and we were out of there.

Now we're piled up in bed where we've been most of last night and since dinner. So, I convince her to watch tonight's episode of EC with me. We turn on the TV to the right channel so as not to miss the start and "Secretly Pregnant" is on :faint: :faint:

Sucks...we had a talk when I got home, she said while she of course wants to know for sure she isn't going to think about Saturday's appointment because she's too afraid the result will be the same to even let it into her head. :pout:

So, we'll just hang in there until Saturday and hope we know something for sure one way or the other. She can't take this roller coaster ride anymore :pout:

Thank you all so much for sharing your stories of loss and of success in similar situations, for your prayers and support. It means so much :hug:
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That's all we have in life in that order. So in perspective sweatin' the small stuff just ain't worth it! Keep your head up and continue to have hope!
 
So sorry you and your daughter have to go through this roller coaster ride. I've been on the ride more times than any one person should, and it's a ride no one wants a ticket to. You've got a great group of friends here with great advice. All I can add is, just wait...and pray...Pray for courage to know what to do when the time is right, pray for strength to make it till Saturday, pray for the future, whatever that holds, baby or no baby. Hugs to you...
 
Awww, of course your evening wound up that way. :pout:

Sorry Joy, just try to hang in there and keep yourselves as busy as possible until Saturday. :huggy:
 
I had low HCG with my first pregnancy and slight cramping. My levels only rose slightly during the two days (usually they double) My doc says any increase is good and then they did the ultrasound to check it out. We had a heartbeat, measure 6wks 6ays.

Now, I did have a friend who had to keep having ultrasounds because they did not see anything in her sac. She waited about two or three weeks before her d&c because the doc wanted to be sure.

Sounds like she needs a second opinion for sure. At least request another ultrasound before considering other options, esp since the HCG is rising.
 
Joy, as you've seen, there have been many who have tread this path before and got through it. I won't lie and say that it is easy, because it isn't, or the emotional recovery is easy, because that too isn't, but both of you can and will make it. If it comes to pass at least the physical healing is quick and easy.

Is your daughter eligible for any kind of counselling? Regardless of the outcome, she's going to need something to help her through the pregnancy as I suspect she'll be full of more than the normal first-time-mom doubts or she will be having to cope with grief.
 
I had something strange happen during my second pregnancy. The doc couldn't find a heartbeat but hormone levels were up. He suggested it was a molar pregancy and told my husband we needed to consider an abortion to reduce th risk of cancer to me. We would wait a week for test results. After a week of anxiety and prayers from everyone we were willing to tell, the doc declared I was pregnant with twins but actually lost one of the twins. I would just have to let nature take its course and keep the healthy baby as strong as possible. It was a difficult pregancy. I don't know if that was the reason, but my daughter was born healthy.

I hope things work out for you.
 
Thank you :huggy:

Just got home from the doctor. While the outcome is not brighter, there are more answers and more importantly more peace of mind.

New doctor did the ultrasound, gestational sac 6 wks & 6 days. Said prev. doc was wrong that it was completely empty. They can see where the yolk sac started to develop (which honestly I didn't see on any of the previous but today it was clear as day). She said by now we should be able to see a fetal pole and probably a heartbeat.

So, they did a blood draw, they will do the HCG and have results Monday. They will do a repeat of it on Monday at 10:00 a.m. if it isn't going up, or is only going up a little they will know that by Tuesday and will schedule D&C for Wednesday or Thursday. If for some quirky reason it has gone up a lot or doubles from Sat to Mon draw they are compelled medically and ethically to wait some more. No one is really "expecting" that to happen, but it comforts us that they are not rushing her into anything.

We discussed her options, she could take the medicine to hasten the "expelling" but it isn't without risks and in over 50% of the cases you need a D & C anyway. DD thinks it would be more traumatic to go through that. So, if there are no surprises with the blood test she would prefer to have the D & C.

The doctor was APPALLED to hear some of the previous doctor's offices commentary about the whole thing. She even hugged DD and told DD how sorry she was for her loss and the conflicting info she got from the other doc. As opposed to the "don't worry about this empty sac, you are young you can have more pregnancies" that the she was told by the previous one.

I've been holding onto skincarekathy's advice....before we knew there was an issue, they had decided on a middle name for a girl. It was going to be Nevaeh (Na-Vey-Ya) which is Heaven spelled backwards. So, now that the baby has gone back there all I can do is support DD through this, and then help her move on and set her sites back on college.

I can never thank all of you enough for all of your caring, support, prayers and wisdom. I don't know how I could have held it together without it. :hug:
 
:huggy: I was really hoping the news was different this morning. Also, while it seems really far in the future now, make note of what would have been her due date, it will be a really rough day for her and having someone remember will mean a lot to her.
 
I am so sorry. I am glad you found a compassionate Doctor. I know a lot of people on here have advised on the D/C I honestly think it is the way to go for your DD. I have had 3 D/C's, a "natural" miscarriage and a still birth. From my experience the D/C has been the easiest and less traumatic way. Hearing "you and young and can have more kids" is crap! Losing a baby is horrible and sad at any age.
 
Thank you for the update, I'm glad you have a more compassionate dr now. i hope that things continue to develop, and you still never know at this point :9:

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While it wasn't the good news you had hoped for, it must be some relief to have more definite answers, presented by an obviously caring individual... :huggy: to you both
 
When I was preg. with our first I had about 2 weeks left till due date, went in for ultrasound they they started talking about faliure to thrive, sent me to Er for level 3 ultrasound, needless to say we had a little girl the next day emergency C- section. she lived for 3 days on life support her name is/was Abagail Kathleen, While she only lived 3 days I am happy that I got at least that much time with her. I then had a son who is 11 years old and great. And I also have had a son who was stillborn after my uterus ruptured. I just want to say please do not let one or even 2 doctors make you feel like your opinion doesnt matter, they are not always right. with my last son who passed they told me the entire time he was a girl. It may sound wierd but I now tell everyone if they can do a level 3 do it cause from what they say it is much clearer pic.
 
rjccurrie Holy ****, I'm so sorry to hear about all you've been through. Like you said, I'm glad you got the time that you had but that happening once is something no parent should ever have to experience, but twice, and so traumatically :faint:
 
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