Anxiety or panick attacks
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You can so do this, think of all the conversation starters out there. Olympics, freaking hot summer, everyones summer vacations, Chick-fil-a (maybe not) but you get the idea. Your new to the area, great time to meet people and learn some of the areas quirks.
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I just went to a friend from KDG's shower...I knew no one but the mom to be and one sister. I sat at a table with old ladies and a teenager. AWKWARD. BUT, it was fine. I can talk to anyone. You will be fine...
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Oh I wonder if there will be a bar?! In the am at stuff like this, I start with vodka/ cranberry.
But I will be driving myself so one is the limit. Try to remember the shower is not about you and you won't be the center of attention. Everyone will be focused on the mom-to-be and especially on the baby. No one will be focused on you. Wrap the present and go. You can always leave early if it's horrible, but you should go to this. Your presence is important to her.
I don't like showers either babe. Does anyone really like them? :hides: I hate being the center of attention and I told everyone NO SHOWERS for my baby, but there are already 2 in the works.
and I agree with IC2, you should mention to your doc you need something stronger for occasions like this. :huggy:
I don't like showers either babe. Does anyone really like them? :hides: I hate being the center of attention and I told everyone NO SHOWERS for my baby, but there are already 2 in the works.
and I agree with IC2, you should mention to your doc you need something stronger for occasions like this. :huggy:
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You're right KG, it's not about me (which I knew, but still). It's her bridal shower btw. Not that it matters, but she's 48 and this is her first marriage. She did want children but she feels it's too late for that.
out: She is one of the most real, kind, giving, hard working peeps I have ever met. I want to be like her when I grow up. I really want to do this!!!
Thanks all!
KG I'm glad you have showers coming your way! You will enjoy yourself, I did.
MRSMOM ......... you are not alone and you are not crazy. My mom gets these attacks. Feels like shes having a heart attack and cant breath at times. She does not have them daily, but she does have a med. (alprazolam) i think for when she feels one coming on. She gets a stronger dose for pre-procedure stuff or things that are likely to trigger an attack. To help yourself, you must go to the Dr and explain this, they can give you the appropriate med or other advise to help you with this. I am a n RN and I know about this, but its still kinda hard to understand. I try to tell my mother that when she feels she cant breath, I tell her she is fine, shes breathing fine or whatever. She knows its not "Real", but she feels like it is. I am very thankful that I do not have anxiety/panic, but if I did I would see a Dr. because according to my mother it is miserable. Not trying to be mean or bossy, just some advice.
Not pushing or anything and obviously I am biased, but have you ever thought about going to see a therapist just to practice some role-playing and to work on developing coping skills. Might even be able to find the root of the anxiety and push through that to almost eliminate it.
Just saying it because I think you are awesome and others should get to experience the awesomness that is you to its fullest!
Just saying it because I think you are awesome and others should get to experience the awesomness that is you to its fullest!
You're right KG, it's not about me (which I knew, but still). It's her bridal shower btw. Not that it matters, but she's 48 and this is her first marriage. She did want children but she feels it's too late for that.
I really want to do this!!!
Thanks all!
KG I'm glad you have showers coming your way! You will enjoy yourself, I did.
ahhhhh I feel like Anass for assuming everyone else in the world is Just Like Me. You can do this. Don't think about the whole event all at once, just focus on getting ready, then getting there, then finding a place to sit.
HEY would you rather go to a bridal shower or the dentist? Because I have a dentist appointment next week and I'll gladly trade ya.
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poohpooh your mother is right. I've never experienced anything worse than a panic attack. :surrender: I am on meds but for day to day stuff...........I don't have stronger ones for really hard things.
I'm glad you're so understanding of your mother. It is NOT something she is making up.
KG good luck on that dentist appointment. :flowers:
mrs. melton.............therapist? I'm not thinking I'm gonna go that route. If I wanted to feel a root cannal or feelings, I wouldn't self medicate. (I'm pretty sure that was a Two and A Half Men quote). :lol:
I'm glad you're so understanding of your mother. It is NOT something she is making up.
KG good luck on that dentist appointment. :flowers:
mrs. melton.............therapist? I'm not thinking I'm gonna go that route. If I wanted to feel a root cannal or feelings, I wouldn't self medicate. (I'm pretty sure that was a Two and A Half Men quote). :lol:
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Hard for you to understand she wants me there eh Barb? :lol:
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I was just playin' Barb. I know that you go to some..............well.............weddings that you may (or may not.........not assuming) make you uncomfy.
Thank you Barb.
Thank you Barb.
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I agree w/Barb, your neighbor OBVIOUSLY likes you which is so much better than the usual bullshit of I will invite everyone I know and my husband-to-be knows because I want all the gifts and money I can get...I only DO showers of super close friends, everyone else I have an excuse for...tomorrow is my cousin's shower which is way south of me...no way in hell am I going to give her another overpriced gift that she could afford to buy anyway...this girl makes good bucks and is always going on vacation, etc. She just wants me to go so she can get more stuff...I have literally seen her a handful of times in my life.
This. I've had social anxiety and medical anxiety for about a decade. Had my first panic attack in 2001 on the Kennedy on the way to pick my MIL up from the airport. I was on Paxil for about 3 years, went off it to have kids, and have taken Xanax as needed ever since. When I was on the Paxil I did cognitive behavioral therapy with a wonderful psychiatrist in Northfield. It made a huge difference and I still use those strategies when I start backsliding on things.
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I LOVE Stuart Smalley! I LOVE That line of his: I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and gosh darn it people like me! It has stuck in my head for yrs!
Awww... This ain't nothing to stress about. You'll be fine & I bet you have a great time.
I once went to a wedding for a cousin who I barely spoke to, but since she's family so it was expected of me to attend. I was 18. 8 months pregnant. My escort was my retarded 15 year old brother. I had failed to graduate w/my high school class & it seemed like everyone knew I had failed, but no one knew why. It was July & hot as hell. I was a pit of misery & panic the whole time & not sure why everyone wanted me to go, but I did & that was that. Ironically, all the weddings I've been to, I've been pregnant. Not sure what's up with that, but annoying when you're trying to look your best and you can't see yours toes. :lol:
I once went to a wedding for a cousin who I barely spoke to, but since she's family so it was expected of me to attend. I was 18. 8 months pregnant. My escort was my retarded 15 year old brother. I had failed to graduate w/my high school class & it seemed like everyone knew I had failed, but no one knew why. It was July & hot as hell. I was a pit of misery & panic the whole time & not sure why everyone wanted me to go, but I did & that was that. Ironically, all the weddings I've been to, I've been pregnant. Not sure what's up with that, but annoying when you're trying to look your best and you can't see yours toes. :lol:
