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It's not too late. And I still think it was much "easier" for me to "train" them because I was not their mom. I had no guilt about them or feelings of trying to make up for what I missed, etc.
They aren't perfect. The oldest 2 are crap students, but they all have their strengths. They are hard workers. My worst student has a GREAT job that he is so responsible with. He turns 18 in May and they will be making him a manager. Sometimes, that is good enough
Part also is that when they were small, DH and I both worked full time. It is much easier not to feel guilty about "doing" when you are not SAHM. We had a BIG backslide that lasted almost a year when I first stopped working full time.
It is easy to take everything upon yourself. But no good for the kids, generally.
Once you have good expectations, you might be surprised by their strengths and interests. One of my kids trades laundry duty for cooking day. One likes to cook, one doesn't mind laundry. You see.
Fun stuff!
They aren't perfect. The oldest 2 are crap students, but they all have their strengths. They are hard workers. My worst student has a GREAT job that he is so responsible with. He turns 18 in May and they will be making him a manager. Sometimes, that is good enough
Part also is that when they were small, DH and I both worked full time. It is much easier not to feel guilty about "doing" when you are not SAHM. We had a BIG backslide that lasted almost a year when I first stopped working full time.
It is easy to take everything upon yourself. But no good for the kids, generally.
Once you have good expectations, you might be surprised by their strengths and interests. One of my kids trades laundry duty for cooking day. One likes to cook, one doesn't mind laundry. You see.
Fun stuff!