KG I hate to say this, but maybe she's just ready to go kwim? My DH's Nana did this. She was tired and was just done. She refused everything and after a few weeks she passed in her sleep. I was sad, but we were glad she was no longer in terrible pain. Her funeral was the day before Christmas Eve last year.
I know it's so hard. :huggy:
Thank you. I'm sorry you lost your DH's nana -- I remember how hard it was on your family, especially the kids because of the time of year and that you'd lost your DH's dad the year before. :huggy: No one ever wants to say goodbye, and this is something we've all been struggling with since September. I just talked to my cousin, who said grandma's doctor is aware of this. My aunt won't re-admit her to the hospital. They think that's not what Grandma wants, and I have to agree.
I don't want to project anything onto my Grandma, but I can't help but think maybe she got home and settled in and spent a few nights there, and understands now this is how she is going to live, this is her life now, and she hates it. Before she moved, she had been saying things to me and others like, "I'm no good" and "I can't do nothing" (meaning, I think, that she can't read, write or watch TV). I think she understands the consequences of not taking her meds. She was/is a smart woman, and before the stroke didn't have any dementia. She knew what not taking her meds would do.
Her great-grandkids came in from out of town and saw her yesterday/today. Also my brother and his wife came in over the weekend and she saw them on Christmas. And my other sister was in for Thanksgiving, so she saw them then.