Re: Such a failure as a mom
13 year olds are a tough bunch! I don't think you're a failure, I think most kids aged 12-15 a freaking idiots who don't think past the immediate moment they are in. They don't grasp the consequences of their actions, because they are freaking idiots.
My DD17 did something as bad, imo, but without the longlasting effects of pictures that you can never get back- she snuck out of our house with a friend & over to a boys house where who-knows-what happened. Of course we found out, because as I said above, most of them are freaking idiots. I'm not a failure or a bad mom, and neither are you. At least you care! If you were a bad mom you wouldn't care.
My thought has always been to punish them severely & swiftly when they do something that has the potential to escalate into worse behavior. So, I would be over-the-top harsh. I would 1) donate her iPod to someone, 2) ground her **** indefinitely, because that's a GREAT way to wrap up summer vacation & now you have a lawn service because she will surely be bored , 3) make her write a paper on the dangers of online sexual acts and take away her phone/computer/tv privileges.
You're not a bad mom. You simply have a kid who did a stoopid thing.
13 year olds are a tough bunch! I don't think you're a failure, I think most kids aged 12-15 a freaking idiots who don't think past the immediate moment they are in. They don't grasp the consequences of their actions, because they are freaking idiots.
My DD17 did something as bad, imo, but without the longlasting effects of pictures that you can never get back- she snuck out of our house with a friend & over to a boys house where who-knows-what happened. Of course we found out, because as I said above, most of them are freaking idiots. I'm not a failure or a bad mom, and neither are you. At least you care! If you were a bad mom you wouldn't care.
My thought has always been to punish them severely & swiftly when they do something that has the potential to escalate into worse behavior. So, I would be over-the-top harsh. I would 1) donate her iPod to someone, 2) ground her **** indefinitely, because that's a GREAT way to wrap up summer vacation & now you have a lawn service because she will surely be bored , 3) make her write a paper on the dangers of online sexual acts and take away her phone/computer/tv privileges.
You're not a bad mom. You simply have a kid who did a stoopid thing.