I'm worried about a 2nd c-section. I already had another friend tell me the second was way worse than the first and now clars. My first one was just awful and I have no desire to repeat that. At least I only had to care for a newborn, this time it will be a newborn and Lex. Not going to be good if it is like last time.
I'm leaning towards having the party early and scaling way back. Pay the $$ to have it somewhere else with food included and I don't have to worry about the pre and post-party house cleanup or all the cooking. Also it limits the length of the event (and thus my exhaustion), whereas when it is at my house it is more of an open house event.
Folks sure will be disappointed though - I'm the only one of the mom's that does a full buffet of home cooked food. Or maybe I'll be the only one disappointed since I won't get so many compliments on the meal or the cool home made cake(s).
Can you tell I just feel like I'm letting Lex down? And letting my friends/their kids down? I've been setting the bar higher and higher with each of Lex's birthdays. Kinda sucks to take a step backwards.
I was so worried about the second c-section. My first the recovery was really hard. I remember it taking me 20 minutes to walk to the bathroom 20 feet away. I remember having my mom drive me to my 2 week postpartum appointment because I was still on prescription pain killers. It took me months to feel "normal" again.
With Josh (2nd section) I was up and walking around with little/no pain 24 hours after surgery. I was off the prescription pain killers and taking only Advil by day 4. I was off the Advil, driving, taking care of 4 kids on my own, and pretty much back to normal by the time he was 10 days old.
I hope you get your VBAC, but it's not the end of the world if you don't.
And as for the party, at 8 months pregnant do whatever is easier for you! Everyone will understand and it will bother you way more than it will bother Lex!