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so what are you thinking right now?

CharlieQ said:
I've always found it odd that parents would opt their children out of something like this, feeling that it's not an appropriate topic to be taught at school. Wouldn't it make more sense for people that know how to teach teach your children vs. them learning it second hand from other kids that were in the class? :dunce:
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yep! what on earth did they think we were going to learn!. well, actually in our family they were afraid we would be exposed to immorality. and that may or may not have been the case, i was not present, so i have no idea. times have definetely changed and we are urged to be frank and open about such matters. i can tell of you that my closest friend told me things i never knew and i got a very wide variety of knowledge in a short period of time. good thing i already knew i wanted to remain a virgin until my wedding day. there is a lot more material out there today at the disposal of young parents to educate their young ones, and we are very happy to have that! :)
 
boyzrus said:
My Mom had me use a mirror to see where to put it. She told me all the stuff I could do, like go swimming, and she emphasized how you couldn't smell anything when you had one on.

Maybe it won't work until they figure out how restricted they are by using the pads. If it doesn't bother them, there's no motivation for them to switch. Just sayin......
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thanks! i am having a difficult time imagining my just turned 11 year old doing the mirror thingy. thanks!
 
at 9 my mom sat me down and told me about the birds and the bees and how girls got their periods and why periods were necessary and how babies were made etc....it was very factual and she kept it short and sweet but at least she explained it to me...I was 12 and in jr. high school in the middle of the day when it started...I didn't have any pads w/me so I had to do what mrs. mom did which was an epic fail since the tp fell out somewhere in the hall. Still I am glad my mom taught me the basics. I will probably talk to my DD when she's 9 as well...kids hear so much on the bus nowadays that I may have to tell her sooner! At 9 I was PRETTY EMBARASSED by the sex talk but looking back I'm glad she did tell me...there were a lot of girls in the dark about it.
 
http://www.regretsy.com/2012/03/11/weekend-flashback-red-tent-event/ This link actually made me snort my coffee. Just the numbered "reviews" at the bottom...too funny. Thanks, Kathy. :lol:

Autumn- I think you're doing a great job keeping it light hearted. My DD18 will talk about anything, my DD13 hides in horror. Her & I have NEVER had a conversation about her period, ever. DD18- we talked, went to lunch, got a manicure, etc. DD13 would seriously rather die. When she needs supplies, I get a post it note on the counter that says "Mom. I need stuff." She's incredibly picky, so if the stockpile is out of what she prefers (U by Kotex in the black box <eye roll>) I go to buy her supplies & they magically appear in her bedroom & we don't discuss anything.

As for what I'm thinking right now...DD18 & I were just deciding which classes she should take at her community college this summer. Is it wrong that I told her she shouldn't take ANY night classes because they are geared towards older adults who are back in school so they are MUCH harder than the same class during the day? What I didn't say was that I do not want her to meet a 34 year old single father of 3 and I think there is less of a risk of that happening during the day. :lol: I'm so happy she's still so easily led in the right direction & didn't even question it.
 
I'm thinking this **** needs to be dragged until he's bloody!!!:ranting:

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/...til-it-bled-20120313,0,404616.story?track=rss

A Humboldt Park man was cited with animal cruelty after dragging a puppy and leaving a trail of blood while “teaching her to walk’’ early this morning in the Humboldt Park neighborhood, police said.
Stanton Howard, 42, of 1300 block of North Rockwell Street, was cited with animal cruelty, according to police News Affairs Officer Laura Kubiak.
About 2 a.m. police were called to his home because neighbors told police they saw a trail of blood leading to the door of Howard’s second-floor residence, police said.
When officers knocked on Howard’s door, they encountered Howard, who admitted that the blood from the 11-week old pit bull he had dragged, Kubiak said.
Howard told police: “This is how you teach a dog to walk,’’ Kubiak said. The 11-week old black and white female pit bull suffered “severe bloody scratches,’’ and open wounds on its stomach.
While the puppy was being walked, she was “being dragged when she didn’t keep going,’’ said Kubiak. “A trail of blood was left behind.’’
Another 11-week old male pit bull was found inside, the officer said. The dogs were taken by the city’s Commission on Animal Care and Control.
Animal Care Executive Director Cherie Travis said two dogs are being examined by the vet this morning. One appears to have “serious abrasions to the belly,’’ according to Travis.
Howard, who has a tattoo on his chest of a bulldog, is scheduled to appear in court May 1, police said.
The injuries to the dogs were not life-threatening and the dogs will not be euthanized.
 
dragonfly said:
WTF is wrong with people? Who drags a puppy until it bleeds? Someone should drag him around for awhile.
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THIS IS WHAT I'M SAYING!!! :ranting:

dragonfly will your DD13 talk to her sister about those "issues"? I'm 11 years older than my sister and helped her out (I even bought her her first condoms :quiet:).
 
Yep...drag him around undil he bleeds & then just say "Well, this is how you teach someone to THINK. Duh."

No, DD13 will not talk to anyone about it. :lol: She got her period when she was 10 & didn't even tell me...DD18 noticed supplies were being rapidly depleted & put two & two together. She keeps her supplies in a shoe box in her dresser. When we were organizing her bedroom I went to open the box & she FREAKED out. So much so that I ripped the box out of her hands & flung it open expecting to find something horrible, like drugs....nope, pads & tampons. The only benefit to her spazziness is that when she is harrassing me about something, like buying her yet another pair of shoes, I can get her to stop & leave the room by asking, "Do you need tampons?" :snicker:
 
my mom didn't tell me anything either. Like someone else mentioned they got everything on their own. I found one of my sisters old bras with a broken strap and used a safety pin. Trying to be open and up front with my two girls about everything so they don't go through that. I thought that real young girls were not suposed to use tampons yet that they were supposed to wait a couple of years? Dd 14 doesn't use them yet she is afraid I think.
 
you are right about the age thing, at least before 12 and not for an extended "period" of time by any means. way more succeptible to toxic shock. i not "pushing" for it anytime soon. now in hindsight, i wonder if toxic shock was covered ovr by the companies, sice as of late there have been recalls of unacceptable levels of bacteria in the tampons, maybe they knew all along. i would not be the least bit surprised.
 
kewpon addict said:
at 9 my mom sat me down and told me about the birds and the bees and how girls got their periods and why periods were necessary and how babies were made etc....it was very factual and she kept it short and sweet but at least she explained it to me...I was 12 and in jr. high school in the middle of the day when it started...I didn't have any pads w/me so I had to do what mrs. mom did which was an epic fail since the tp fell out somewhere in the hall. Still I am glad my mom taught me the basics. I will probably talk to my DD when she's 9 as well...kids hear so much on the bus nowadays that I may have to tell her sooner! At 9 I was PRETTY EMBARASSED by the sex talk but looking back I'm glad she did tell me...there were a lot of girls in the dark about it.
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well bless your mamas heart!! so kind of her. at the school we go to they have pads for girls at the nurses office. and i always send one with the girls in their backpack. what is a real challenge is convincing them when they do not need a jumbo pad anymore, ie:lightdays, they are paranoid they need a big one, always with wings. i may as well pad their undies with dollar bills, lol, the good ones are so darned expensive.
 
CharlieQ said:
I've always found it odd that parents would opt their children out of something like this, feeling that it's not an appropriate topic to be taught at school. Wouldn't it make more sense for people that know how to teach teach your children vs. them learning it second hand from other kids that were in the class? :dunce:
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I actually did a paper on this back in college [can't remember for which class though :lol:], found out the parents who usually made their kids opt out of school sex ed never taught their kids about it at home. To them, ignorance was bliss, didn't matter if they traumatized their kids as a result either. The parents tended to be more religious & had little advanced education themselves.

Their kids tended to be more likely to become teenage parents than the kids who were taught about their bodies & sex ed.


BTW, my mom sat me down & taught me about menses & sex when I was 9, just before I left for summer camp. She didn't want me to freak out in case I got my period, like she did when she started. Her mom was part of the unmentionable generation.

Don't think 9 is too early, my SIL, the family practice doc, sees lots of young girls who start menstruating at 9 or 10. It has become much more common than it was a generation or two ago.
 
ennui said:
I actually did a paper on this back in college [can't remember for which class though :lol:], found out the parents who usually made their kids opt out of school sex ed never taught their kids about it at home. To them, ignorance was bliss, didn't matter if they traumatized their kids as a result either. The parents tended to be more religious & had little advanced education themselves.

Their kids tended to be more likely to become teenage parents than the kids who were taught about their bodies & sex ed.


BTW, my mom sat me down & taught me about menses & sex when I was 9, just before I left for summer camp. She didn't want me to freak out in case I got my period, like she did when she started. Her mom was part of the unmentionable generation.

Don't think 9 is too early, my SIL, the family practice doc, sees lots of young girls who start menstruating at 9 or 10. It has become much more common than it was a generation or two ago.
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yes I came from a religious family, no they were not uneducated, they were not particularly more religious, methodist i think, mom and dad were at the very top of their classes. dad graduated with a full scholarship which he had to let go due to the fact that his girlfriend was expecting at a lovely young age. =o !!! and they got married. they never spoke of sex but were affectionate, boy they sure did like their "naps!" the wonderful thing is that they are still married after 51 years of wedded bliss. and i am rounding number 29. i guess we all lived through all that.
 
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