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My youngest sister is drama. She lives in Iowa then guilts my kids that I don't bring them to her. Ummmm...she moved 6 hours away. That isn't my fault.

Eh..whatever. When she is in town even for the day, I make sure I get them to see her.

Once she was in town for literally one dAy...we were offered a window of an hour to see her and I got them there.

She moved away, own it.
 
dragonfly said:
I am wondering if I will ever have a day where both of my new kids behave themselves. Probably not. The girl has advanced to writing paragraphs instead of sentences. Her handwriting is going to be b-e-a-u-ti-ful in no time!

DD14 is developing an allergy to her contacts. I thought that was strange, but apparently it's fairly common. Her left eye gets cloudy within an hour of putting in her contacts. Anyone else have this? She has eye drops, but they take a week to kick in. It's always something with her!

I just made jalapeno popper dip. Looking forward to the game!
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Wow, I didn't know that was possible. Dh sometimes has this and gets mad that it's the contacts and keeps trying to clean them. Maybe that's his problem.
 
mrsred1 said:
My princess sister is the same too.

She visits her DH's family all the time. She visits only for holidays (which I'm surprised we even get that!) but she's always last to arrive, first to leave.
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Wow, glad to hear that it isn't just me that has some weird family dynamics like that.

My brother got married in 2006. Ever since then, it's almost like our side of the family doesn't exist. My brother and SIL can be in the area visiting SIL's family all day but not make time to visit our 70 year old father for even 10 minutes. They go on week long or 10 day vacations with her side of the family but can't be bothered to spend more than 3 hours with us. Every single holiday is dictated by what SIL wants to do and surprise, surprise, they have to go see her family ALWAYS. Ever since they have been married, they haven't spent a single Thanksgiving with our side of the family because they have to see hers.

The kicker is that they got married a few months after my mom was diagnosed with cancer. That first Thanksgiving (which turned out to be my mom's last Thanksgiving here on earth), my mom asked them to spend it with her. They (brother and SIL) didn't really want to and spent less than an hour at my parents' house (they basically came, ate some food, and left immediately after eating) and then spent the rest of the evening with her family. A few months later, my mom was gone and one of the last things she remembered was their selfishness on that Thanksgiving holiday. :-(
 
Grrr, our snowblower has stopped working! Why couldn't this predicted 6" of snow have come sometime today instead of tomorrow when everyone has to go to school and work and to the dentist???
 
My 2 older (:giggles:) sisters and nephew are coming down to visit at the end of the month!!!!!!:cartwheel:

They were suppose to go to Upper Michigan to visit Dad and Stepmom to go snowmobiling.
Dad goes every year for 3 months to do this. He's 86
This year he got a new sled. They were going down the trail, Dad in the lead, and Stepmom saw his boot on fire!!! :lol: She got him to pull over, put his boot out, and finished up the ride. They got back to the motel, took the boot off, and he had 2nd and 3rd degree burns. He wanted to just stay and wrap it up. Off to the Dr.....

Needless to say, they are on their way home....for skin grafts. He's ok, and old salty dog type.

As for the rest of family, they already had the time off, so they are coming here!!!!!!:cartwheel: Thanks Dad!!! :lol:
 
Oh my goodness, Steve! Good thing your stepmother saw it, he could have exploded! I'm glad it seems treatable....but that's quite an injury at his age. But glad your family can visit!


(It amazes me that people would ever choose a snow vacation over a beach vacation. :faint: )
 
along the lines of b & m about family and selfishness,...

2 summers ago my husband and I decided to take a week and go on a small vacation with his parents to springfield illinois and st louis missouri. My kids loved it. My husbands parents loved it as they could spend time with their grandkids having fun. My mom... not so thrilled would be putting it extremely mild. For 3 months, my relationship was very strained, to the point of me telling her as we were ready to hang up, I love you mom.. to hear crickets from her side of the call or hear her hang the phone up after she heard me. It freaking hurt. Finally after 3 months she got over it and started telling me she loved me also.

Last year we did not go on any vacation. In fact, I got a job and have been working full time ever since. For 3+ years my mom has needed back surgery but refused to get it. When I got a job, she made plans to have surgery. She had surgery mid January. She is doing better and is rehabbing at her brothers house. The selfish part of me.... I was home for 6 years and could have went to help her at any time but it was not a good time for her. Now that I am working, she wanted ME, not my brother just ME, to come help her. Needless to say, I did not go because I could not afford to. She is 700 miles away. Tons of guilt.

Now, I suppose this is wrong but I want to go on vacation this summer. A real vacation. I want to take my kids to Colorado. I want to go, I want my kids to have fun and a real vacation. I KNOW if I do this, she (my mom) will go ballistic! Am I supposed to put her needs, because it has been 4 years since I have gone to Mississippi, first... or my kids who are 14 and 12? Realize her town is small town living with NOTHING to do. While she is there, there is NOTHING to entertain my kids with. She is not healthy enough to go to colorado either. I hate this!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
That's how my gramma is, mamma. I haven't spoken to her for a year. At first I felt very guilty. Now, I am so happy to be done with her bs drama. She sent me a christmas card with a check for $500, as if I could be bought. (I was so tempted to cash it & donate it, but I didn't.) Her card was more drivel- no apology, just more of the same. She sent me some VILE emails last Feb/March. She should re-read them & maybe clue into why I am done with her. DD18's bday is tomorrow & I KNEW she would be trying to contact her. I blocked all of gramma's numbers from DD's phone. All my DD needs is that stress from her & she'll drop out of school & be back here instantly. Of course she has no thought about DD14- she'll never contact her. And there is no way in hell I will let her near my new kids. I should have cut her off 20 years ago. Lesson learned.

Just as an example of her- one email talked about how DH & I were thinking of having more kids. (I was going to borrow $$ from her for IVF.) And she said that it certainly wouldn't be in the baby's best interest to be born into this home. This is coming from a woman who routinely left ME alone with a child molester, but she doesn't see how that makes her a not-so-great parent herself. Whatever. Done!
 
This is a very exciting day for us. I am going to meet the Girl's new therapist in a little while to go through her intake info. Our caseworker filled out the initial form, but she doesn't live here, so she only knows what I think is important enough to tell her. Should be interesting! I was so happy to end therapy with the old therapist yesterday. It was such an odd relationship. DD8's parting gift from the therapist was a set of oil pastels and sparkly lip gloss & make up. That right there reaffirmed my thoughts that we can do better, therapy wise, for this girl. You have an 8yo who has impulse issues, who writes on EVERYTHING, who I make "check out" pencils/crayons/markers/etc from me, who has destroyed things in the past by writing on them, an 8yo who thinks she 17, who steals & sneaks make up, who is so overly sexualized I won't let her wear a skirt or have unsupervised PLAYGROUND time for f's sake!!!, who I said right off the bat, "She WILL be 7 here- no make up on 7yo's!" And what do we get? Make up & permanent crayons. (Yes, I know she is 8 now. :lol: )

:gah:

Also, GAL is coming today to talk permanency. Ummmmmmmmmmmm...Yeah. No. Can I have 6 months? Thankyouverymuch. Oh & while you're here, take a look through her journals. Yes, I am not exaggerating her deepest thoughts. :duh:

Please, please, PLEASE let this new therapist get through to her. I hope she's smart, otherwise she will be bamboozled. :-/
 
I'm sorry you're hurting Jeni.

I'm done with the family guilt and obligation train, and that train can run both ways. Over the past 6 months, we made up our minds neither to accept nor serve guilt and obligation in the name of family. We ended up having the most stress-free holiday season we have ever had in 12 years of marriage :dance:

We have extended family nearby and all over the country. We expect nothing from anyone. If we can see relatives and we want to see them, it happens. If they're assholes who consistently treat us like garbage, we no longer make time for them or give them headspace. If we invite someone and they choose not to come, or if people just aren't that into us and don't make an effort, we adjust our expectations and don't get all butthurt.



and OMG dragonfly. She left you alone with a chold molester?! :faint: :huggy: don't doubt your decision!
 
parent teacher meetings are tomorrow. We got the paper work Saturday afternoon. I waited until noon today to make an appt. and imagine that... the times I need are all booked up.... ****! I am upset I won't be hearing how my child is not giving consistent effort and could be doing much better. Sorry, I am not mad at any teacher.... aggravated at my kids though. I do not want to hear your kids suck in school! They can not tell me anything (along the lines of laziness and inconsistent effort) I didn't already know and I just do not have it in me to hear it!
 
I called my husband at work to inform him he doesn't need to go to the meetings... he asked if I was feeling better.. I said no, worse actually. (the new dept. I am in at work has a flu bug going around and it is apparently my turn with it)He informs me, yea you sound like Barry Whites sister.... yeah!!!!!
 
Feeling pretty pleased with myself right now. I love philosophy skincare - it's expensive but it's really high quality. I'm running low on the face cleanser Purity Made Simple and I love their hand cream Hands of Hope. Just those two items run about $50. :surrender: I'm trying to build up my savings again so I've been trying to avoid purchases like this. I remembered that Lord & Taylor sells philosophy products and I have a few gift cards saved up for there. (One of the guys at work gives me a $50 L&T gift card for Christmas every year. It's an expensive store and I really don't shop there.) Best part is they're offering free shipping on beauty purchases over $49 and a tree shower gel trio set. :bliss: (I did have to put $4.19 on my cc because I couldn't figure a way to pay with two gift cards on the site. But I'm ok with that.)

It's the little things that make me happy. :giggles:
 
I was just thinking that me and dh gave the paramedics a good laugh the other night. Dh woke up 5 minutes after falling asleep with chest crushing pain. This is the 5th time to the ER in 3 months with the same. They can't find whats wrong, they say his heart is great. He seems fine, but we are following up with doc and maybe going to head to Northwestern for better docs to find the problem. When the paramedics showed up I just happen to be wearing my leopard satin pj's and dh was wearing his superman pj's. I bet they were thinking we were playing Superman saves Jane.
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Nanny is was your silky jams that made your DH's heart pitter patter. :sex:

I hope they find out what's going on and I hope it's minor.
 
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